u/ProfessionBorn570

I (39F) was seeing a pretty awesome guy (31M) for about 3 weeks in total.

We seemed to really hit it off, and had a nice amount in common.

We never went on any dates (we never said they were) but we did meet up 3 different times.

When we started seeing one another he lied about his age and said he was 24 going on 25 because he thought I wouldn't date someone his age. (I met him on Facebook dating and his account is wrong and says 24, but he went along with it)

After we had been talking a day or 2 I deleted my Facebook dating account. I let him know I did as well. He didn't seem to even care.

After the 3 weeks, he ghosted me over 24 hours. I was pretty heartbroken and figured he didn't like me anymore.

2 of my friends had saw he was still on Facebook dating looking for girls to hang out with. I never asked him to delete it, and it didn't bother me. I figured he had another girl already, and I was trying to move on. I just don't want another relationship now. I'm going to wait another few years.

I decided to make a strictly friends only account on the Facebook friendship part. I didn't see anything wrong with it at the time. Everyone I had matched with as friends I was straight up with them and let them know I was talking to someone I really liked. I wanted to make a platonic friend, maybe a friend with kids like me. I didn't let people know I was hurting because I hadn't heard from him.

There's a part on Facebook Dating/Friendship where you can see you likes you only. I decided to go to that and match with people who already wanna be my friend. 95% of them turned out that they just wanna get laid. It was really sad. One guy invited me over to car watch from his balcony and smoke weed, but was mean to me and blocked me when I wasn't going to do more.

4 days passed with no word from the guy I liked.

Eventually he writes me and says he ghosted me because I lied to him. He says I matched with his friend on Facebook. He was upset because I said I deleted my profile previously.

I didn't reply to him about his friend, since he ghosted me 4 days. (I do not know who the friend is) If his friend is a good person he will show that I was only looking for platonic friendship.

I don't want to be with a guy who ghosts me for 4 days. I want a guy who can communicate with me daily.

I don't want to talk to the guy anymore, but figured I'd make a post about it. It is definitely painful, since I really liked him. Thankfully it was only 3 weeks, and not 3 years. I definitely feel relieved that I don't have to date someone with crappy communication skills.

I did completely delete the Facebook Friendship account and uninstalled Whatsapp from my phone so that I don't get anymore hurtful messages from the guy I previously really liked.

I'm not looking for anything from writing this. I'm just venting because in the end I don't have anyone to talk to, except Chat GPT. She definitely made me laugh with some funny jokes about why he had disappeared for 4 days though. 😅