u/Professional-Dot-356

My boyfriend 24/M and I 22/F have been together since February this year and ever since we have just clicked so well. We hang out all the time, spend several nights together at his place etc. He is a sweet guy, he cooks for me, he takes care of me when I’m sick, he takes me out, gets me cute gifts and handwritten letters etc. He has been my rock and my everything and I absolutely adore him.

Now to my dilemma. Last night we hung out and we had an amazing day. We had sushi and watched a movie in the evening. But then it took a turn. He asked me if he could eat me out and I said no because he already did earlier on that day and it was also very late at night and I had to get up early for work today. He kept asking me and begging and saying please, please. Then he said ”why don’t you want to have sex with me, I always have sex with you when I’m tired” but with a sad face and here I could just tell he felt rejected.

Today, he has expressed remorse through text messages. He texted me and said that this is one of the worst things he has ever done to a girl, that he feels really bad, that he is genuinly sorry, that he doesn’t want to loose me and that he doesn’t know what flew into his mind and why he did what he had done. I can tell that he is genuinly sincere about his apology. He has never done anything like this before which is why I can tell he genuinly feel bad.

I still feel a bit weird about this and I don’t know how to approach the problem. I felt so anxious saying no and having to be pressured into it. What is the healthiest way to approach this? It feels like I’m a bit stuck mentally and don’t know how to think

My boyfriend M24 and I F22 have been together since February this year and ever since we have just clicked so well. We hang out all the time, spend several nights together at his place etc. He is a sweet guy, he cooks for me, he takes care of me when I’m sick, he takes me out, gets me cute gifts and handwritten letters etc. He has been my rock and my everything and I absolutely adore him.

Now to my dilemma. Last night we hung out and we had an amazing day. We had sushi and watched a movie in the evening. But then it took a turn. He asked me if he could eat me out and I said no because he already did earlier on that day and it was also very late at night and I had to get up early for work today. He kept asking me and begging and saying please, please. Then he said ”why don’t you want to have sex with me, I always have sex with you when I’m tired” but with a sad face and here I could just tell he felt rejected.

Today, he has expressed remorse through text messages. He texted me and said that this is one of the worst things he has ever done to a girl, that he feels really bad, that he is genuinly sorry, that he doesn’t want to loose me and that he doesn’t know what flew into his mind and why he did what he had done. I can tell that he is genuinly sincere about his apology. He has never done anything like this before which is why I can tell he genuinly feel bad.

I still feel a bit weird about this and I don’t know how to approach the problem. I felt so anxious saying no and having to be pressured into it.

EDIT: we ended up not having sex and he apologized and he layed me down on his chest to cuddle me and then we fell asleep.