u/Professional_Can6900

I’ve been trying to find shoes I like and find comfy for awhile. I was a big fan of sketchers but they changed to slip ins and I don’t like slip ins at all. I bought countless pairs of sketchers as a brand loyalist and disappointment every time.

On a whim I bought a pair of womens Brooks Ghost Max 3’s just to try. I am two days in and I am in love with them… so much so I bought two more pair.

1 pair for when I go out
1 pair to wear in the house
1 pair for vacation later on this year.

I just 🙏 they never convert to only slipins because I may have just found my shoe for life.

I booked a holiday with a friend of mine who at the time was supportive and excited to be going on the trip with me. I’m still working on getting better after falling and I am handicapped due to my fall now. My partner and my friends don’t necessarily see me as handicapped just fat and lazy.

Yesterday she (friend) finally spoke her mind about me and informed me I better make plans of my own because I won’t be able to keep up with her and she isn’t waiting for me.

This really low, broke my heart because I didn’t choose this. She’s the same size as me and just one accident away from being in the same situation. Like I truly just slipped and fell wrong and here we are.

She said it off handed because I asked her to go downstairs to grab something from the freezer (I can’t do stairs easily) so I just said yeah ok at the time but now that I have slept on it… it really just hurts. Our other friends already cancelled due to finances about a month ago so it was only her and I and we’ve paid it off.

I’m thinking about cancelling and losing my security deposit and flight costs. and just letting her enjoy her holiday because I guess her original assumption was I would be with our other friends.

Just really hurts knowing how she really feels about me and concretes some thoughts I have had regarding our friendship as of late.

It’s not like I don’t try. I feel like it’s all pointless. I haven’t talked to my partner about it yet. He wasn’t going as it was a “girls trip” but I don’t want to go now. Which he’ll question and probably get pissed off about what she said.

Just disappointed and don’t know how I can improve I’m doing what I can 😮‍💨 ☹️

💫 Update Thanks for everyone who posted. 💫

To again clarify I do not need anyone to take care of me. I have a handicap but it does not = unable to care for self… I just have some mobility issues that slow me down due to injuries and on occasion can put a damper on the day.

Spoke with my husband this morning after brekkie. He was pissed off he also disclosed that her partner had said some back handed compliments to him regarding me but he didn’t know how to bring it up. That’s a whole different thing. It did open up communication for him to elaborate his feelings about my issues which we haven’t really done. We are good. As assumed he doesn’t consider me handicapped but also the lazy commentary he doesn’t consider that either.

At any rate texted my “friend” to let her know I thought it would be best for me to cancel and that she should instead take her partner as they would likely have a great time. Have not heard back.

So Monday we will try to figure out if we can just get him changed to my spot.

It was a cruise so I doubt there will be much of an issue I don’t expect my deposit back but we are still in cancellation phase that I will get some of my money returned.

My husband said we can take a trip to Canada later this fall as a couples retreat. During the time that the cruise was to occur.

We likely won’t be hosting them for dinner parties anytime soon. It’s a 20+ year friendship so I doubt we will cut ties entirely. She hasn’t got back to me as of yet but I kind of feel like she would rather take her newish (6 months) boyfriend instead and this will likely make her happier.

So I guess win/win. 🤷‍♀️

I’ve been on the fence if it was helping me at all until today. They announced they are letting go of a ton of us at work (myself included) historically I would have been spoon deep in a gallon (from Sam’s) ice cream after this news. I didn’t even visit the kitchen until EOD to start dinner for the family.

Hopefully I’ll find something swiftly so I can continue to see if it helps.

The little signs I guess. I literally would have ate 6k calories today typically considering the news.

Hope everyone is having a good experience today