u/Psychological-Fee287

Income Imputed Despite Layoff

A few years ago my role was eliminated due to corporate downsizing. At the time I was making approximately $115,000 per year in AdTech while living in NYC. The job market was extremely difficult and after hundreds of applications and exhausting unemployment benefits, I started delivering for Amazon just to keep food on the table and maintain housing.
As a result of losing my job, my mortgage went into default, my car was eventually repossessed, and I ultimately had to sell my apartment. During that period I worked whatever jobs I could find to survive and continue supporting my son.

At some point I came to the realization that returning to my previous career was becoming increasingly unlikely. I researched healthcare careers and learned I could pursue nursing. I became a licensed Patient Care Technician, obtained a hospital job, and enrolled in school. A few months later I was hired to work on an inpatient psychiatric unit earning about $28 per hour while attending school.

While working and attending school, I remained involved in my son’s life and continued contributing financially. Based on advice from my manager, I later transferred from community college and was accepted into NYU’s nursing program to pursue a BSN. I currently work part-time at a hospital and continue contributing to my son’s expenses, including daycare costs.

My son’s mother later filed for child support. I maintain that I was never properly served and only became aware of the case after more than half of my paycheck was being garnished. When I appeared in court, I explained that I had not been served, but that argument was unsuccessful.

Over the following year I provided pay stubs, tax records, unemployment records, and other requested financial documents. Despite this, the court ultimately accepted my son’s mother’s argument that I intentionally left my prior career to avoid child support obligations.
That is not what happened. My position was eliminated, I was unemployed for an extended period, and I changed careers because I needed a realistic path back to stable employment.

My support obligation increased from approximately $199 per week to about $325 per week. I am paid weekly, work part-time, and earn approximately $30 per hour.
There is also a dispute regarding educational expenses. Our co-parenting agreement provides for shared decision-making regarding education. I cannot afford private school tuition. Nevertheless, my son’s mother enrolled him in a private school. I agreed to contribute $2,000 annually toward tuition. My son’s mother earns approximately $200,000 per year, while I am a nursing student working part-time. The court ultimately ordered me to pay 39% of educational expenses and 39% of certain healthcare expenses, despite the fact that I already provided health insurance coverage for my son.

I work alternating two-day and three-day workweeks while attending school. Overtime is available, but it becomes difficult to maintain once classes are in session. With the increased child support obligation and educational expenses, I am genuinely concerned that I may not be able to complete nursing school.
My goal in returning to school was to create a more stable financial future and increase my ability to support my son long-term. Instead, I feel like I am being penalized for changing careers after losing my previous job.

My questions are:
In New York, what options are available when a parent believes income has been improperly imputed in a child support proceeding?

Is there any meaningful avenue to challenge a support order when the court concludes that a career change was voluntary, despite evidence of layoffs, unemployment, and efforts to obtain comparable employment?

Are there New York legal aid organizations, family law clinics, pro bono attorneys, or attorneys who offer payment plans for parents facing child support litigation?

Has anyone successfully navigated a similar situation while representing themselves?
I am primarily looking for legal guidance, procedural options, and referrals to affordable legal resources in New York.

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u/Psychological-Fee287 — 4 days ago

Expressing my feelings

A few years ago my role was eliminated due to corporate downsizing. At the time I was making $115k, living in NYC. The job market was rough (Adtech). Eventually after hundreds and hundreds of submitted job applications and unemployment running out, I started delivering for Amazon so that when my son came over I had food for him. As a result of losing my job, eventually my mortgage went into default and my car was repossessed and in the end I needed to sell my apartment.

Delivering for Amazon using my car before it was repossessed was a lifeline. One day while delivering in a really sketchy area, a individual who appeared mentally disabled attacked me and tried to sexually assault me. I was able to fight him off but that experience scared me and left me very emotionally vulnerable. That shit messed me up for a while. Yes I reported it and ironically a few days later my car was repossessed.

Fast forward and I’m living off the last of my saving and the struggle is real but throughout this events, when my son was with me (only had him every other weekend) he was well fed, clean, and honestly I worked so many odd jobs just to make sure he was good.

At some point I came to the realization that getting back into a adtech role was nearly impossible. I made a decision to go back to school and become a nurse. Through out my research I learned that I could complete an Associate Nursing Degree and qualify for the the nclex. I took it upon myself to become a licensed patient care technician in order to get a job at a hospital. Fast forward and 2 months into this path I was hired in a in-patient psych unit working for $28 per hour while attending school.

While working in the hospital I want to emphasize I was always still present emotionally, physically and financially to help support my son. I eventually decided to pursue a BSN in nursing per the guidance of my manager when she explained to me, that at the end of day, she had to justify why she hired a person with a associate degree versus a bachelor degree.

I eventually transferred from my community college and got accepted into NYU’s nursing program on my merit. I’m working part time and contribute and splitting all cost with my sons mom including his day care.

Fast forwards and his mom files for child support to the tune of $2500 per month. Even thought she knew what I was making. I only found out about the case when more than half my salary was garnished. I went to court and explained I was never served but it fell I death ears. After a year of providing pay stub after paystub after paystub and every other document requested, his mom was able
To convince the judge that I left my job intentionally in order to avoid child support.

None of which was true, not even close. I shared unemployment information and everything I could. Next thing you know my child support is now pushed to $325 per pay check from $199. I’m paid weekly and work part time. I make $30 and hour.

On top of this, our co-parenting agreement requires equal say in his education. I can not afford private school and what does the mom do, enroll him private school at a cost of $9000 per year (scholarship, tuition is $70k per year)

I agree to pay $2000 per year. His mom makes almost $200k per year. Eventually the judge decides that I should pay 39% for his education and 39% for his health insurance. Mind you i already had my son on my health insurance.

I work 2 days one week and 3 days the following week. I can get over time but it’s challenging when school starts back up In the fall. But at $325 per pay check , I now can’t afford to continue my schooling, which I went back to in order to provide a stronger financial supply for my son. And no I can not afford a lawyer. ChatGPT and these other platforms do not help with self representation.

Today I woke up emotionally exhausted. My son is now five years old and today for the first time I looked at him and all the emotional feelings I have toward his mom, I found myself looking at him and pushing him away. I know this is no fault of his own. I truly love my son but at the same time, this new order will hit my pay check soon and it just hurts that no matter what I do, I keep getting kicked down further and further and further.

Ironically my son is leaving for a European vacation with his mom in a few days for 6 weeks. I still owe his tuition for school plus my own tuition, if I work OT, i can’t afford to pay for anything. If I don’t work OT, I’m still broke.

I’m just ranting and wanted to put my feelings into words. I live in NYC and if you know of a lawyer who would do a payment plan or needs pro-bono hours, please direct message me. Thanks for reading and a heads up, I’m not planning to reply to any post. I do love my son, but I’m so emotionally drained. Also I’m not suicidal or intent to harm myself or others. Not my cup of tea, I’m just drained and wanted to vent my frustration. Thanks for reading.

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u/Psychological-Fee287 — 4 days ago