u/PsychologicalAide368

must have

• mental stability and open mindu
• maturity and patience
• growth and career-oriented
• in a promising major/career path
• clear and decent history (what if they were a criminal or enabler?)

nice to be

• passionate in their hobbies
• like to discuss, argue, debate
• cultured
• attentive and perceptive
• emotionally independent but giving space to connect

nice not to be

• overly delulu or overly logical
• too attached with a group/individuals (including their family)
• boring and predictable
• rushing me to "settle"
• bossing me around

deal-breaker

• too religious (I'd look like a demon)
• addict (in all means)
• conservative and close-mindu
• passive-aggressive and conflict-avoidant
• makes me feel unsafe and/or chained

I want a solid rock that would ground me without dominating me (quietly taming my attitude). people said I'm dominant and like to dominate, but it's not like I want a 100% submissive partner—I don't want to mother someone. I have a tendency to go against my "targets"' ideal type, teasing and challenging them (almost mocking)—it makes me feel irresistible when they fall for me. maybe I have a sensitive ego/identity? Idk, don't tell me how I should be or behave; it won't result in any good. I was born to be a contrarian (but gentle advice is appreciated)

during the talking stage... I don't like easy people. hm, how should I explain that? I want to feel the chase and push-pull that goes both ways. when they have good ethics and/or principles—like an immovable rock—that my flirts mean nothing to them, it makes me respect them, feel safe and challenged. Idk, I just have a tendency to test and tease my targets and put them under my microscope (I've been called FBI). I like being mysterious, ambiguous, and incomprehensible. I love it when we have a passionate connection and talk poetically like in movies or literature. people said I like to play mind and psychology games, a bit too calculating. Idk, I mean no harm, truly :(, but I do like games... I'm flirty and "suggestive"; the degree depends on the targets. but I won't give myself—or even personal information—too easily, you know? for interesting mystery

in relationships. oh, do you think you've won? don't fool yourself! prepare for some dramas and conflicts, but don't mistake it for me doing it for no reason at all. humans are dynamic, baby. we also should keep our bond passionate and interesting. we're teaming up now, but that doesn't mean my contrarian nature completely disappears. I don't care what kind of dynamic is socially acceptable, as long as it's fair and you respect me—also cus each individual has differing qualities/mastery... I have not yet stayed in a relationship for too long, so that's all

talk about what now? oh, roles. we can discuss it later. I believe in fair distribution and teamwork; it's us against the world, baby. one note, tho: I don't like to spend too much time in the kitchen. I happen to not like washing dishes either, or washing fish and other things with a fishy smell (I can barely eat them). and, let's forget about children, yeah? unless we find ways where I don't need to take care of them for long, long hours (let's spend it to experiment in bed instead ;))