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I was having this conversation with my mother on the topic of evolution, inter species competition and population over growth and human greed.

My mother is an interesting person, she has suffered a lot in life and is still very open minded and anti tradition.

She agrees that one should give themselves a chance at life and kids must really be optional and in any case becoming parents must be about quality and not quantity. It just breaks my heart to see how marriage and motherhood destroyed what she could have done in her life.

The way she talks about even heavy topics like death sometimes causes so much pain and reminds me how much I have taken this character of wisdom from her. Things like fake pride or security in progeny, extreme fear of death and mortality does not pester her. I deeply respect her.

It is painful to realise I have limited time with her but this just reminds me how much of a choice that I have she did not.

Having the option to not have kids is privilege. Having a chance at life really is a privilege. I think the world is not deprived of kids, it is deprived of this simple acknowledgement.

I had an abortion last year and since then I have this lingering guilt within me and I feel very remorseful.

I cannot change what happened and could not do anything else to save it, I was not in a situation to give birth but since then I have been feeling terrible thinking that I took a human life, I feel stressed about this at times.

I never intended for this and I am genuinly sorry for that being. I just can't stop thinking how irresponsible I have been, I would never let this happen again.

Is there anything I can do to repent?

I like this community, so I am sharing something which is my observation.

Having and rearing children is a default for most societies across globe and fertility rates were very high up until the recent history, once again for most of the societies but since many nations have gone through wars and consequential industrializations, their birth rates dropped even though culturally those countries have changed a lot in terms how idea of family works.

In case of India, the expectation which is naturalized for having children is that they would be and should be providing income upon reaching youth. I beleive this is very specific to current indian society. I see so many people who need to earn as soon as possible, as they were raised to be the income providers for their family. Indian families specifically raise children to be future income providers which I beleive is something not as prevalent in many societies aborad, there formjng an independent life moving away from your parents house is considered a norm, and one does not need to share or surrender portion/whole of their earning to their parents, which is very prevalent among a lot of working class to middle class families here, regardless whether the people in this sub will be able to relate to this or kot based on their socio-economic standing.

This is one of the unquestioned cultural norm I feel is unfair to young people, as it puts all the load on their shoulder without them having any chance to explore their own life beyond the relentless necessity of money and subsequent desperation for employment.

Moreover such dynamics also interfere with regular course of adulting for people, where having a partner and wanting to establish one self independently with them is seen with dissaproval and at times with spite by the family members, causing further tension in the spousal dynamics.

But all this for what reason? Because people are too greedy to look that another human life does not owe them an alleviation from their own suffering.

Tell me what you guys think about this and whether your own personal life has been impacted by such an observation?

I have heard a lot about keto and low carb to burn fat but then people often say carb is necessary for energy.

I am confused and I need some good educated advice based on experience as well.

I am female and currently weigh 54kg at 160cm. I have lost good amount of weight and fat but currently struggling to achieve an optimum physique, some stubborn fat remains in arm and belly so I want to loose this as well. I am aiming for leaner body with less fat but I also want to maintain sufficient energy in my system so I can study and work and stay active both physically and mentally throughout my long day and will be hitting gym about 4 times /week to focus on strength training.

I was wondering what kind of marco (carb, protien, fat) ratio will help me achieve that ?

So I came across this article about a judgement in the marital dispute case and I remember coming across a similar judgement last month :

Wife's Demand For Separate Residence Without Reason Amounts To Cruelty: Kerala High Court Grants Divorce https://lawbeat.in/news-updates/wifes-demand-for-separate-residence-without-reason-amounts-to-cruelty-kerala-high-court-grants-divorce-1619946

Putting aside other facts of the specific case in the article without disregarding their weight in the matter, is wanting a separate house from in-laws really an "invalid demand" as Indian courts see it. I surely understand that partners can be non cooperative with each other and create disputes and all but how come wife is wrong in simply wanting to live away from in-laws?

By that logic isn't every husband wrong in living away from his in-laws and more so, can a wife demand her husband to live her in her parent's house?

EDIT: a lot of people commented about explaining the validity of the judgement in the specific case mentioned but post was never about that, I am not debating the validity of the judgement of this specific case, nor I intend to portray the wife in this case as completely faultless, that is why I said keeping aside the other facts of this case in their due regard and weight for the matter, my question was around Indian courts saying that a wife has to have some special reason to not want to live with her in-laws , is this a just view? What if a wife has no problem living with the husband but has with the in-laws. Here is another case of a similar kind https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.livelaw.in/amp/high-court/madhya-pradesh-high-court/wife-not-entitled-to-maintenance-lack-of-harmony-with-in-laws-husbands-attention-towards-parents-540556

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I've been wondering about something related to wealth measurement in India.

Is it common for wealthier Indian families to hold a considerable share of their assets or income in ways that don't fully appear in official records (for example, through unreported cash transactions or other forms of "black" wealth alongside fully documented assets)?

If so, does that mean that the wealth and asset distribution we see in official statistics understates the true wealth of India's middle, upper-middle, and upper classes? How much does this affect research on inequality, household wealth, and consumption?

I'm not looking for anecdotes but for evidence-based answers. Are there any economists, researchers, or people familiar with taxation, real estate, or household finance who can give some insight here?

I'd also appreciate recommendations for books, academic papers, datasets, or reports that examine undocumented wealth, tax evasion, household balance sheets, or the political economy of wealth in India. I'm especially interested in quantitative work with estimates, figures, and data rather than opinion pieces.

Thanks!

I've been wondering about something related to wealth measurement in India.

Is it common for wealthier Indian families to hold a considerable share of their assets or income in ways that don't fully appear in official records (for example, through unreported cash transactions or other forms of "black" wealth alongside fully documented assets)?

If so, does that mean that the wealth and asset distribution we see in official statistics understates the true wealth of India's middle, upper-middle, and upper classes? How much does this affect research on inequality, household wealth, and consumption?

I'm not looking for anecdotes but for evidence-based answers. Are there any economists, researchers, or people familiar with taxation, real estate, or household finance who can give some insight here?

I'd also appreciate recommendations for books, academic papers, datasets, or reports that examine undocumented wealth, tax evasion, household balance sheets, or the political economy of wealth in India. I'm especially interested in quantitative work with estimates, figures, and data rather than opinion pieces.

Thanks!

I've been wondering about something related to wealth measurement in India.

Is it common for wealthier Indian families to hold a considerable share of their assets or income in ways that don't fully appear in official records (for example, through unreported cash transactions or other forms of "black" wealth alongside fully documented assets)?

If so, does that mean that the wealth and asset distribution we see in official statistics understates the true wealth of India's middle, upper-middle, and upper classes? How much does this affect research on inequality, household wealth, and consumption?

I'm not looking for anecdotes but for evidence-based answers. Are there any economists, researchers, or people familiar with taxation, real estate, or household finance who can give some insight here?

I'd also appreciate recommendations for books, academic papers, datasets, or reports that examine undocumented wealth, tax evasion, household balance sheets, or the political economy of wealth in India. I'm especially interested in quantitative work with estimates, figures, and data rather than opinion pieces.

Thanks!

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I've been wondering about something related to wealth measurement in India.

Is it common for wealthier Indian families to hold a considerable share of their assets or income in ways that don't fully appear in official records (for example, through unreported cash transactions or other forms of "black" wealth alongside fully documented assets)?

If so, does that mean that the wealth and asset distribution we see in official statistics understates the true wealth of India's middle, upper-middle, and upper classes? How much does this affect research on inequality, household wealth, and consumption?

I'm not looking for anecdotes but for evidence-based answers. Are there any economists, researchers, or people familiar with taxation, real estate, or household finance who can give some insight here?

I'd also appreciate recommendations for books, academic papers, datasets, or reports that examine undocumented wealth, tax evasion, household balance sheets, or the political economy of wealth in India. I'm especially interested in quantitative work with estimates, figures, and data rather than opinion pieces.

Thanks!