u/Public_Junket1324

Just saw some guy or woman asking about late-term abortion in the teens sub saying that they don't agree with late-term abortion, so it just kinda made me think...

Shouldn't this stuff be asked mainly towards women? Like, we're the ones that go through it anyway, idk. Not asking if you agree on the late-term (mainly because I don't care if late-term abortion is legal or not and purely focus on the fact that abortion itself is legal or not).

Sorry if this post violates the rules. It just kinda irked me.

To my mother,

I admit I made my mistakes and I am sorry, but everytime I do something "wrong" you become rash. After some adult troubles I've had, you treated me so differently, and I saw sides of you that I knew existed but denied. So, I was forced to look at the truth, and as sad as I am, I am happy. I am happy you let me see how you could be. Now I know to not waste my vulnerability on you but only for those who will treasure it.

Every time I got a low score, you comforted me saying "you'll do better next" only to realise that you were projecting your expectations subtly. You know, I realised this when my final test wasn't as good as I thought (although not so bad), and both you and father were just absolutely destroyed. I was never comforted. When I got into a rather good university, you were congratulating my achievements but never me. You didn't tell me "congratulations" but instead chose the word "thank god" or something along those lines (very hard to translate to English). I faked myself for you, but no more. No more lies, so I decide to stay quiet.

You will never know who I am.

You will never know I am going all around the country going on domestic trips with my partner or with his friend group filled with people of various nationalities, cultures, and genders. They treat me well, unlike your bias. They make me feel like I belong. We are handling long distance well, not that you will ever know...

You will never know I am going out on my own into cities, walking and having my own peace in life with my own friends.

What I do know is I'm not making the same mistake you made, dating older men and getting in emotionally unsatisfying relationships or getting stuck up on your parents' own approval instead of achieving your own peace. No, I am stronger than you and will go through my troubles on my own. I won't just survive, but I will live on my own. And mark my words, I will thrive in my own way.

Perhaps I will be honest and tell you that I failed my law exam (assuming that I will 2-3 years later), and you will yell at me for not reaching my full potential. Perhaps I will tell you I will be getting married later in my life.

Or maybe not.

Whatever the case, I remain grateful to you and father's financial aid. Although when I see kids playing with their parents in the park and in the aquariums, being silly and funky, I just wish that could've been this family.