u/Puppersworth

Why do some conservatives pretend to care about the possibility of depressed, disabled or mentally ill people seeking euthanasia, when they resent people like that most of the time, and openly admit they don't consider other people's well being their concern? I'm a caregiver to a sibling who relies on long term support, and I've spent about the last 20 years being involved in disability rights, and it is almost always people who are more right wing that typically use language like leech, burden, parasite, "the takers" etc, to describe disabled people that rely on long term government support. But then they suddenly act outraged about people in those situations seeking a way out. I've seen quite a lot of left leaning people say prejudiced things about disabled people also, but it's usually within the context of encouraging women to abort babies with disabilities, which plenty of right wingers also do (lots of right wing people are pro abortion). But at the very least, there is much more of an emphasis among more left leaning people to take disabled people's needs seriously as a class, instead of insisting everything be left to 'charity'. And no, I'm not in an echo chamber. I base this on things I actually see and hear from those kinds of people themselves. Addressing and holding people accountable for the prejudices toward disabled people is part of what I've done online and irl over the years.

That Youtube creep Matt Walsh was recently virtue signalling about a couple who aborted their baby after a test said it likely had Down Syndrome, yet he, and other people like him, care nothing for those people after they are born, or the needs of their caregivers. I'm not completely anti euthanasia (but I'm very anti abortion), but I have a big problem with the way that the safeguards for euthanasia seem to be pushed lower and lower. But I at least place as much importance on the issue of people's financial/medical needs to begin with, instead of shrugging it off as "not my problem".

It almost seems self sabotaging to be against abortion and euthanasia, while also not caring about the financial challenges people face that make both abortion and euthanasia more appealing to people.

To me this makes no sense, because hypocrisy is supposed to mean someone preaching standards that they don't follow themselves. Like someone stating they want abortion legally prohibited, but then going and having an abortion themselves.

Speaking out against abortion for being the killing of a developing human, never required insisting that you have to adopt. It's like saying you can't criticize harm being done to children or animals in general, unless you're willing to adopt them. Or that you can't speak about poverty unless you're personally willing to house a few homeless people. It also doesn't address the reasons why people believe abortion is wrong, since attempting to accuse people of hypocrisy doesn't mean that what they said about abortion is wrong or invalid.

To me this makes no sense, because hypocrisy is supposed to mean someone preaching standards that they don't follow themselves. Like someone stating they want abortion legally prohibited, but then going and having an abortion themselves.

Speaking out against abortion for being the killing of a developing human, never required insisting that you have to adopt. It's like saying you can't criticize harm being done to children or animals in general, unless you're willing to adopt them. Or that you can't speak about poverty unless you're personally willing to house a few homeless people. It also doesn't address the reasons why people believe abortion is wrong, since attempting to accuse people of hypocrisy doesn't mean that what they said about abortion is wrong or invalid.

I've noticed when reading people's opinions on places like Twitter and other forums for people who are obsessed with trans related subjects that there's an idea that men who wear women's clothing (not necessarily trans women) have paraphilias that make them more inclined to being predatory, including pedophilia. Not that I'm assuming that to be true, but the problem is that it seems to contradict another interest that GC people supposedly have, which is that they want to normalize gender non conforming people, and blame trans people for "promoting sexist stereotypes". It seems pretty counter productive to me, to claim you want to make men wearing feminine clothing more accepting, but then on another day promoting the idea that men who wear dresses are a red flag for sexual deviancy. This is a direct comment I copied from a forum: "Men in dresses aren't to be trusted, regardless of how they identify. People drawn to fetishes are more likely to be more interested in breaking taboos, and this often leads to unacceptable behaviour, be it flashing and masturbating in public to rape."

It seems that men and boys who want to wear dresses or makeup can often feel insecure enough just by the view that they are 'weird' or 'gay' for having that desire, so I can only imagine that promoting the idea that women require some specific safeguarding from femininely dressed men is only going to add to self consciousness, and make them less likely to dress how they want. Seems like a major nerve to try and blame trans people for that, since I haven't generally seen feminine trans women or masculine trans men dictating how people should dress. It's a personal preference if people want to embrace gender norms.

I've looked into a lot of information about HRT for MtF people, and it seems like the general consensus is that it somewhat increases risk of cardiovascular issues and blood clots. The thing is, I can sometimes have pretty bad bouts of anxiety and stress, not usually full blown panic attacks, but I can get stressed enough that it can take a long time to pass and I feel a lot of tension in my chest. I'm also very insecure about my proportions, and realistically, there's not a lot you can do about things like that unless you get pretty invasive surgery. I know that if I transitioned, I know myself well enough to know I'd be really self conscious about how I look and worrying about not passing. Plus, I take interest in certain political/ethical subjects, but it always stresses me out when I look into it/research it/have to interact with people about it. So stress with the addition of hormones that slightly increase health risks sounds worrying. But then I still feel a looming dread at the thought of staying as I am. My therapist also thinks I'm likely autistic, but it takes forever to get a diagnosis. So I don't know what I'm gonna do about it.

I posted here before and I'm a detransitioner (was attempting to be MTF) and one of the things that worried me about transitioning was feeling like I would have to commit to looking a certain way. I'm kind of feminine for a male, but in terms of presenting as female, I wouldn't say I passed. I think most people would know I was trans or at least question it. I knew I would feel really insecure about having short hair while wanting to be referred to as a she, for example. But then I thought about how I'd feel if I ever got fed up with having long hair, having to be mindful how I look. I still have gender dysphoria (I'm also autistic) and I go back and fourth about doing it or not. On one hand it's nice to not feel worried about how I'm taken at face value, but on the other hand, I still feel a pull to wanting to make some changed (I feel too scared of SRS so that would likely never happen). I have been seeing a therapist, but she's made sure not to try and push me in any direction, because she knows that wouldn't be her business to do. So it is all on me, but I'm not sure what I'll end up doing.

If I made one, would people here be interested in watching it? I say this because I know that the subject of detransition has been exploited. Some detransitioners have used their experiences as a way to say that no one (even adults) should transition at all. And of course other people (often conservatives or 'gender critical' feminists) will also go on about it under the guise of 'concern'. I've noticed a contradiction among radical feminists who are quite anti trans, where they are very keen to bolster potential regret as a way to downplay bodily autonomy for trans people, yet these are the same people who are quick to be very dismissive toward the subject of women regretting having abortions, because they see it as having an anti abortion agenda.

I'm not someone who is really silly about the subject of being trans, like dying on the worst hills the way some bad trans activists does. But it does bother me seeing a lot of the anti trans rhetoric, because I do find quite a lot of it exploitative and disingenuous. I could also talk about my experience from when I started transitioning, namely that it was mostly positive regarding the doctors. I wasn't misinformed (I was educated about it on my own terms anyway), but the doctors were very up front about potential side effects. Thanks for reading.

Hi, I posted here with pics before, but I wanted to do a more detailed post. I'm a detransitioner who has recently started to consider maybe doing HRT and laser hair removal again. I began getting laser hair removal and HRT back in October 2018, when I was 30. But a few months later, I had an anxiety attack, and began having physical symptoms of anxiety for a while after. I got really nervous that the hormones might have triggered it, even though the doctor reckoned it was unlikely. That, combined with feeling self conscious about anti trans sentiment, made me have a bit of a crisis, and I ended up stopping hormones around August or September 2019, so I was on it nearly a year.

I was trying to post a pic of my body in a lingerie outfit that I took back when I was a few months into taking estrodiol, but Reddit wouldn't let me post it, even with the NSFW added, but basically, I did get some notable fat added to my chest, thighs and butt.

To be honest, it's fat distribution that bothers me more than anything regarding my insecurities (along with hating facial and body hair). I don't exactly have skinny legs, but I feel like they are smaller than they were. For some reason not being curvy really upsets me. The breast development that happened is still there, but they're less voluminous. I care about that more than my face. Like if my face is just 'okay', but I have curves, that would be fine. But I am 37 now, like I said, so I have no idea how effective HRT will be regarding curves at this point, and I don't really want surgery like breast implants, nor could I afford it anyway. And if not that significant, I kind of don't see the point. I'm currently on the chubby side partially due to not wanting to be too slim. But that's my personal dysphoria.

In the UK, waiting lists for the NHS have gotten longer. I did initially start transitioning in 2018, and took estrodiol for nearly a year. But I had really bad anxiety at that time, and became paranoid that the pills were doing it, and I also felt a bit self conscious about anti trans sentiment at the time, so I felt like I had to call it off. It took about a year to get my first appointment, then shortly after I got HRT, but I was considered very lucky to get seen within a year. Back then the norm was around 3 years, and now it's up to 5-6 years on average. I've decided I don't really care what people think and just feel like it's still what I want to do. But I really wish I could get started right away. I'm not working in a job that pays a lot (I work in an animal shelter) and I have no qualification or ambition to geta job that typically would make lots of money. I like helping animals. If I could somehow make more money on the side, I would just go private, but not sure how to go about it. I even considered OnlyFans, but I really don't like the idea of it.