Just saw a comment in main german sub that was basically saying dysphoria isn't real, got mayor upvotes.
Can they just finally pls get a reality check and stop killing us with their ideological nonsense?
Pls make conversion therapy finally work, I just want a normal life... I'm so fucking done with being associated with these psychopaths.
Due to my dysphoria I am very good at clocking people, especially other trans guys. There is one classmate who is obviously ftm (though none of the cis classmates have clocked him) keeps looking over at me and im pretty sure hes clocking me too
This is destroying my confidence to the point i dont want to go to any classes anymore
I want to cry i was hoping to have a new chapter in a new university with no one knowing im trans i just want to cry
Basically I'm out of money for anymore surgery. I've had FFS, even more facial procedures, BA. HRT for 5 years. But it doesn't matter as I'm still visibly trans.
Everyone knows I'm a tranny without me coming out and it makes me suicidal to think everyone sees me as trans.
I just want to pass but I'll never get there and be one of the lucky women. And I don't know how to go foward in life knowing I won't be like them. I'll always look like a tranny and never be seen as me.
I was able to keep going hoping time and surgeries would give me a chance to look normal.
This comes after I was harrased by a man and all of friends had to support me with telling me I had to accept I will look trans but at least I can look good.
But to me this is horrendous. I need hope it can better.
I can't accept that I will always look trans - to me that is existing as a caricatures of being a woman.
I've spent all of my savings and in the UK I will never have any more surgery unless I win the lottery
I want to be perfectly clear about this. I’m not saying activism in itself is bad. Far from it. There has been a lot of good activism. LGBT rights and living has improved since 10, 20, 30 years ago. It took a lot of hard work from both LGBT people and straight non-trans allies. Is it taboo here to call people cis? And there’s still a lot of work to do for say, getting trans people surgeries without costing hundreds of thousands of dollars out of pocket.
What I’m focused on is the bad activism, the kind that sets things back years. The kind where people go out there and flat out demand trans rights right now! The kind that calls people transphobic over the most minor of things or disagreements. The kind that takes serious problems and flattens them into black and white. There are plenty of hard questions (well easy for many) that need real answers. Like about trans women in women’s sports. Is there an unfair advantage or not? How much should gender identity matter? Should trans women be allowed in spaces like women's shelters? What makes "trans women are women" accurate, or not?
Like a very serious issue is J.K. Rowling and how she uses her massive riches to legally fight against transgender people. I do not have a good solution for this. Sure, you can boycott her, promote others to boycott her as well. And she might end up with somewhat less money if it all goes well. But will this make any noticeable difference? It’s not just directly her products either, I think she profits from people going to Universal Theme Parks. How reasonable would it be to encourage people to not go to those?
I might not know good solutions to this, but I know dropping cluster f bombs on people who buy Hogwarts Legacy or adult actors who are acting for the upcoming TV show are not good ways to handle things. People are far less likely to listen when they’re being insulted. I’m not saying activism has to only be nice. But surely calling everyone transphobic over a video game and such is not a good idea as that just reinforces negative stereotypes of trans people being mentally ill confused people. Sure, some people will always think that regardless, but it doesn’t need to be reinforced by so-called “allies” or bad actors.
I’m just so upset about all of this! Being trans is already the single hardest thing in my life, is mostly hated and misunderstood by people, and then I got the “good guys” fucking things up even more than they already are. Again, not all activisms, just the “activisms” who think yelling at people on Twitter is helping their movements. The same “activists” who also cry oppression the moment they get any pushback at all, who block and delete their accounts when challenged. Is like they think activism means everyone already instantly agrees with you on everything and that anyone who doesn’t are evil.
I know I should be far more angry at the actual transphobes. Difference is, they don't make trans activism look bad because they're not a part of it. We already know they're against transgender people, they absolutely do deserve to be called out, but it doesn't mean they're the only problems related to this whole thing.
A girl admitted she had a “crush” on me and went out of her way to tell me “oh btw I’ve never had a crush on a cis man. I’m only attracted to afab people” like, I don’t need to fucking know that. You blew your chances right there when you said that. I blocked her. Don’t care.
The only motherfuckers who have ever been “attracted” to me are women who see me as some little bitch boy.lite “safer option” because “HES TRANS HE USED TO BE WOMAN HE MUST BE MORE EMPATHETIC 🥺🥺🥺🥺” even though I’ve never been a woman… or disgusting men with fetishes who see me as best of both worlds.
And then I have to deal with my mom telling me “well erm you have a vagina she was just being honest give her a chance” no! :)))
I’ve only had three crushes in my entire life, none of them have liked me back or really wanted anything to do with me. I’m also asexual. Sex repulsed. And I’m trans med. oh and did I mention I’ve only crushed on people on three people in my whole life and all of them happened YEARS apart and two of which took very long to develop?
I feel like the odds of finding someone who sees me as a real man are lower than me winning the fucking lottery at this point. I feel so alone. I can’t trust anyone.