r/truscum

When I was a kid, I did everything to NOT be trans. I was 6 years old, before I know about trans people, and every Christmas, birthday, trip to build-a-bear, anytime I had to make a wish.. I would wish to be normal.

When I turned 11 or 12 and I found out about trans people and knew I fit every box of the condition, I turned to really unconventional means to trying to get rid of it. I tried pagan rituals, wiccan spells, crystal shit, praying every night and morning, anything I could find I would try.

Whenever I get a build-a-bear and for my birthday wish, I will still wish to not be trans. And Im in my 20s now.

I feel like we always talk about the main, big symptoms, but we never really talk about the tiny little symptoms which absolutely no tucute or transphobe would ever consider.

I get dysphoric if cry, or if I’m able to multitask because I think it means I have a girls brain, I got so grossed out because there was this app that matched people based on personality types, there was one that said mine was associated with lesbians, obviously it’s made up but that made me want to change the way I act.

“We just want to protect kids” aged exactly how everyone with a functioning brain knew it would.

Now it’s adults. Next it’s insurance. Then pharmacies. Then doctors get scared off.

They don’t want “regulation.” They want trans people priced out, scared out, and forced back into hiding. Evil little freak policy.

I'm trucute.

I don't think you need dysphoria to be labeling yourself as trans. I think you simply need to transition (or plan on doing so) medically and/or socially to be labeling yourself as trans.

Also people here don't like when people have misconceptions about truscums yet generalize trucutes...

I'm tired of everything. Of people hating on me because of tucutes ruining the image even further, of never being cis, of the whole "community" being obnoxious and seeing it as an insult when I say I don't wanna be trans but have a d1ck (ftm) and be born cis (which isn't this the definition of being trans???), of my mental health going downhill from being reminded that I'll never be the natural thing, of bobbing back and forth between thinking staying the way I am (pre transition due to money reasons) is better but then wrecking my psyche by doing so, of constantly trying to prove myself as something I shouldn't have to prove.

I'm sorry, I have no one to talk about this to. I'm so fucking tired, dear goodness why was I even born like this.

I went from passing voice wise anywhere to being confused as a guy 70% of the time.
Back then I’d make the deepest voice possible and just be seen as a woman messing around and now no matter what I do I sound like a guy, fruity femboy or sometimes a woman to some people, idk what to do anymore. I never felt like I sounded feminine either but a lot of people told me, and while I never actively voice trained back then I can’t even figure out how to voice train because I always sounded the same to myself, I can’t tell when I sound like a woman or man or whatever, because in my head I sound like myself from years ago when I never passed, what should I even be aiming for, I have decent control over my voice but idk what to change.. no matter what I do nowadays gets me read female anymore and it has tanked my ability to socialize because of the amount of dysphoria it induces

I keep linking things to dysphoria idk why, lately anything I do makes me sick, I can't even listen to songs anymore or do something i kind of like and I dont know what to do. I can't keep bed rotting and hoping the feeling goes away

Ill try to keep this simple and say, hypothetically your income is entirely from streaming. Along side doing this you obviously would host a community. The commmunity is very active and inclusive of many types of people and do lots of stuff quite regularly, so its understandable anyone might be enticed by this to want to join.

lets also say that in the past many tucutes have recognized me as trans and proceeded to flood my spaces with their brand of "support" while acting hostile to any pushback I have regarding differences in views or feelings. This changed the culture to the point that speaking on it at all was problematic.

If this was your job, how would you politely list "truscum" or something similar , in a public fashion (on places that call you out publicly as trans already*), to dissuade these people from joining the community in mass and effecting its overall culture- WITHOUT starting a war or getting put on a "truscum hate list" or something?

sorry if this is a odd question , I just have been talking about this with a friend and we are having a hard time coming to a conclusion. thank you for reading it regaurdless of if you can help though.
(your suggestions really do help btw, this isnt maybe entirely hypothetical haha..)

* (in this scenario its unavoidable to remove the "trans" indicator from many online spaces with your image/identity as that was not done by you and is not in your control.)

I feel like most people i encounter in real life are tucutes with their ideals being mainstream. i'm very civil, never really bring up my own beliefs around other trans people to avoid arguments especially since a lot of this type believe so many misconceptions about truscums or transmeds, although i've politely corrected people when they stated misinformation about transmedicalism without offering any information on where i stand personally

I frequent diy venues in the local music scene here and the kind of people who hang there (cis and trans) are generally tucute-y. I don't mind being friendly with these people because whether or not i think their transness makes sense is not that important to me when being trans isn't all they talk about, and it's none of my business

I don't think i'd have a problem dating someone with tucute beliefs if they were dysphoric, transitioning to alleviate their dysphoria, and not doing anything ridiculous. I don't care to discuss trans discourse in general anyway and i doubt it would come up often in conversation with a partner

What do you all think? Is there something else i should consider?

Transfem here

I haven't been banned yet from any of the mainstream trans subreddits because I am careful and I don't care about picking a fight with online strangers.

But I have some ideas that I feel like would likely get me banned.

For example: I personally wouldn't want a man without a functional penis. (If you've been together for a long time and he develops ED is a different story than him having a ... vagina).

Is it OK to discuss ideas like that here or am I too radical?

Weird question, but the thought popped into my head.

Despite what TuCutes think, the vast majority of transmedicalists are not right-wing. There have been multiple polls about this, and they've found the majority of us are very much liberal or leftist, with only a relative handful on the right.

That said, cis people date people with different politics all the time, obviously including people from other minority groups that are often targeted by Republicans (or their equivalents in other countries outside America).

Just for fun, I'm curious: Assuming they themselves aren't transphobic, would you date one?

Maybe this is stupid and ironic to say but going to london pride and also in general in public it seems to proportion of trans women far outnumbers trans men. By being a trans woman it almost feels like i am jumping on some trend, and i know trans people have to start somewhere but a lot of trans women that dont pass as well makes me not want to be associated with them and i just want to be seen as a woman, not a trans one… I have done all the surgeries and pass well but it makes me wonder what is the mindset of people that dont do surgeries or never intend to…

Hi, I'm a 19 year old closet transwoman who has been on hrt for about 7 months. I cannot risk being outed as I am living at my parents house who would not let me stay there if they knew. My parents work in a church near my workplace so I run into people who know my parents multiple times a week.

I worry that the changes to my face will alert someone in my personal life and they will tell my parents. People have already made comments about my face, commenting on how it has changed. People have told me I look younger and I have more of a "gay" face but I'm pretty sure no one has figured it out yet.

Will become more and more obvious or does the changes to face slow down early on?

No the fuck they don’t?? I see this too much and it’s annoying. People truly fail to realize that gender dysphoria is NOT the same as being insecure or having body dysmorphia. A cis person who experiences gender dysphoria is trans. A man who has gyno and dislikes his chest is insecure, a woman who looks at her body and sees herself as much fatter or uglier than she is is experiencing body dysmorphia. Neither of these things are comparable to gender dysphoria. However a woman who looks at her body and sees herself as male, sees herself as disfigured in her female body, and wishes to change her sex characteristics to be more male, THAT is gender dysphoria and THAT is what separates us from cis people. Cannot believe this isn’t common sense the gender dysphoria criteria is public information.

https://preview.redd.it/35y3ml66gfbh1.png?width=621&format=png&auto=webp&s=059ed84d6f57f56283eff74f76fa6d21c5a0e4ed

can people not "invent" some dumb fucking gender every 3 seconds???

Im having a CT in a couple weeks and Im more comfortable with it that I was before a hysterectomy, but Im obviously till not anatomically male (pre-SRS). If I was pre-hysto, Im ngl, I probably would be leaning towards not having it done at all.

And with the CT, it will 100% show that I am not a male per my genitals. I know my referrals probably says 'transgender male' on it (my doctor put this on an ultrasound I had before my hysto a few months back), but I cant get over the fact that therell be 'evidence' towards me being trans showing on the CT.

I get that its probably an odd thing to think about. I dont want to be labelled as trans on my records, but its relevant to the scan because, well, I havent had SRS yet. I also wouldnt be this fussed about being labelled as trans if the radiologist + radiographer didnt have physical evidence from the scan to 'prove' it.. if you get what I mean? I feel like having a label is less significant than the evidence for it.. even if Id 100% rather not have either lol.

I just dont know how to get over the fact that the doctor + radiography + potentially student radiographers will all see that my body is wrong.

Idk. I dont know how to get over it. I really dont.

I know that theyre doctors and theyve seen everything, and that they end up in a flow state just checking everything over and not really focusing on the patient themselves, but on the case they need to 'solve'.. but I just dont want them to know - even if theyre barely gonna see me/the radiologist might not ever see me personally.

It sucks I guess. Idk.