u/No-Scale9401

No the fuck they don’t?? I see this too much and it’s annoying. People truly fail to realize that gender dysphoria is NOT the same as being insecure or having body dysmorphia. A cis person who experiences gender dysphoria is trans. A man who has gyno and dislikes his chest is insecure, a woman who looks at her body and sees herself as much fatter or uglier than she is is experiencing body dysmorphia. Neither of these things are comparable to gender dysphoria. However a woman who looks at her body and sees herself as male, sees herself as disfigured in her female body, and wishes to change her sex characteristics to be more male, THAT is gender dysphoria and THAT is what separates us from cis people. Cannot believe this isn’t common sense the gender dysphoria criteria is public information.

For context I work in retail, ever since I started passing I noticed customers having less attitude with me, they usually take my word on things when they’re confused, and nobody ever yells at me.

When I was younger and non passing I recall people having a lot less faith in my ability to do my job, not so much yelling because I was young but generally people assumed I didn’t know what I was doing.

I notice my current female coworkers getting bullshit all the time too, so the same customers that are nice to me are mean to them.

Do other trans men see this? Like do you guys also get treated noticeably different in society?

Since April I’ve been trying to schedule my top surgery, at every point in this process something has been messed up or miscommunicated causing me to have to wait even longer. I feel like I spend most of the time waiting and there’s just absolutely nothing i can do.

I’m trying to keep my head up tho, insurance is about to approve it and then I can finally schedule, it just might be in October or something. I feel like once I get the date I can just let the time pass, I am just anxious to know when it will be over.

I’d like to know how other peoples lives changed after top surgery, I try so hard to function but oh my god it’s exhausting because I carry the weigh of my dysphoria with me everywhere.

I hear everyone say T isn’t a form of birth control and you can still get pregnant. Which I’m aware you can conceive, but I’m wondering how likely is the fetus to actually live and what are the chances you can get pregnant at all anyway? If you want to give birth the doctor has you get off T, this makes me assume you can’t carry if you’re on it. I’m not asking for any particular reason I’m just curious what the actual likely hood is because everyone is so black and white when they talk about it

Edit: I am anti seahorse dad lol, sorry if this was a misleading post

I don’t believe in it, to me this is the phase some trans people go through in middle school prior to realizing they swing one way or another. Because it’s easier to admit you wanna be a boy sometimes vs all the time, identifying as the opposite sex and transitioning is such a scary thought when you’re young and not in a supportive house yk. So i understand kids doing it, but I’ve seen some adults do it too and I just can’t support that lol. Gender is innate and really won’t fluctuate, feeling masc or fem is not the same as your brain chemistry changing lol. I’m wondering what other people think of this

I just had my top surgery consult (yay) and during it he was asking about my diagnosis and if I had sent my letter (I did), he then said something like “normally I can tell when someone has gender dysphoria and is actually trans in the consult”. I really wanted to ask more about if he’s ever told someone no to a surgery because they had no dysphoria but I was excited to talk about my own surgery lol.

Bottom line is though, it seems most doctors and surgeons agree dysphoria is absolutely necessary to be trans. Really makes me wonder why tucutes even try to argue with us.

I feel like this is our biggest enemy in the transmed community. I just spoke to a tucute about what it means to be trans, my responds was being trans is simply a biological phenomenon, their response was being trans is about liberation and freedom.

This is absolutely a big root of tucutes ideology. To transition is not liberating by nature, it is merging the rift between the body and the brain. The reason it may feel liberating now is because of the political climate. Tucutes seem to think the whole purpose of being trans is to rebel and to liberate yourself when in reality we are people trying to recover from a horrible disorder.

I think since many tucutes are also non dysphorics, this is why we get so much pushback when we use logical arguments against them. Their identities are rooted in politics not reality, when you bring biology into the equation it automatically nulls their reasoning for being trans because it’s always about self liberation.

I’d like to see what other people think of this because i feel like I’ve been seeing so many political identities disguised as radical inclusivity.

This is more of an opinion based on my own experiences, for me transitioning feels more like recovering from an illness than my life becoming better. Like yeah my life is perceptively getting better but really what’s going on is I’m returning to normal. Like when I’m 40 being a man won’t be euphoric it will be normal. When I get top surgery I will feel amazing because I’ve been battling gender dysphoria my whole life, but is that good feeling euphoria or just me recovering from gender dysphoria? It’s an interesting thought and I’m wondering if anyone else has thought this.