Aitah for kicking my mom out
So I am sure I am in the right here but I still kind of feel like an ah so back story I (38 f) have 2 sisters A (36) and D (39) our parents have been married for almost 40 years. We'll about 5 years ago our parents needed a new place to live so they moved in with my sister D, and they split the bills. Well in the 4 years they lived together my dad started having what I can only describe as his mid life crisis. But went about it in a horrible way. He started doing some illegal extra circular activities, started having problems paying his part of the rent and bills. He didnt want to be the responsible adult anymore. So after 4 years of this everything finally came to a head when he left his "gear" out in the shared living space. My brother in law had enough and told him he had to leave it got heated there was name calling pepper spray and a 911 call to the cops. It all ended up with my father getting a protective order against my brother in law and social workers saying my nephew could not live in the house with my father. So as any good aunt and sister and after my dad refused to move out of the house my invited my sister, her husband and my nephew to move in with me and my family of 4. Long story short my parents couldn't afford the rent and bills alone in the house and ended up being evicted. My dad's great idea to buy and rv and him and my mom live in it. The downside they only have my mom's ss disability ad income. Do to my father dealing with mental disorders and now addiction so they decide to move the rv into my others sisters A drive way.
So now last year my parents are living in my little sisters driveway. My dad still dealing with his problems spends a year trying to defend his position in the problems and reasons why he and my older sister no longer talk it get old fast and then my dad starts having the same problems with my other sister A and her husband. My mother decided that she no longer wants to be with my father she can't handle the arguments and fighting between everyone. So she leaves him and moves into A house. Now mind you my dad still lives in the rv in A's driveway. Mom and dad get back together break up get back on and off off and on for a year putting us kids in the middle and trying to make them pick sides. All ridiculous. Now it's funny how often they seem to make up around the beginning of every month when my mom gets her social security disability money but ad soon ad it runs out they are back to breaking up. My sister A gets tired of it all and tells them they both need to leave, my father says evict him if they want them off the property. So A does. We'll a week before they have to be off the property my mom calls me and says that dad has kicked her out of the rv and she has no where to go. Of course I tell my mother she can come to my house untill she figures out where to go and what to do. She can sleep on my couch.
So to the present last 4 months. My house currently is packed to the max. I have me, my husband, our 8 year old son, my 16 year old daughter (half the week) my sister D her husband, there 8 year old son, and a saint Bernard, and now my mother, all in a 3 bedroom second floor apartment. We are busting at the seems. So mom comes and says that she is done her and dad are done. She is going to stay just untill the 3rd of the month and then she will get a bus ticket and go to Florida to stay with her sister. She and my father are done. So we wait and in the rest of the month my dad comes over bickers with mom about how it's nice she gets a house to stay at and he has to be all alone in the rv. Must be nice to have someone cook dinner for her and he had to starve In the rv that he has now parked on my street right outside of my house. Beginning of the month comes and he seems to win her back and they end up spending all her ss money i. About 6 days. Then they get in a fight and my mom says she wants to separate again she's back on the couch and he starts the 3 weeks of guilt again. This had been going on for the last 4 months. Everyone in my house is stressed. My father is the worst house guest ever. He comes in makes himself food dirty the dishes leaves them wherever he is sitting and the leaves. Then will call or storm in the house all hours of the night because my mom is ignoring him. He wants a divorce, he wants my mom to run. Him to the store cook him food clean his clothes give him money to keep the rv running. It gets old fast.
So finally this month my mom gets her check and decides she is going to go stay at a campground in a tent, it lasted 4 days my dad got an rv site at the same campground. Wins her over and they spend all of her money again. Get in an argument and my mom comes back to my house. Uugghhh
The final straw happened today my 16 year old daughter calls me up and says" mom i want to stay at dad's house, untill my grandma moves out" she doesn't like my mother staying in her room when she's not at my house. She doesn't like the way my dad comes into the house, they bicker in the middle of the living room with everyone around, and uses her kitchen equipment with no respect for others stuff. I can't blame her. So I call my mom while I was at work and tell her that she needs to leave. I dont know where she is going to go she has no money and only her car to stay in but I need to choose my child over my mother. She says she understands and doesn't blame me and she will be gone by the time I get out of work. I feel like a horrible daughter, to tell my mom that she needs to sleep In her car, but im good mom for putting my child's feelings first. I think. I just know that this cycle with my parents will just keep going and going and my dad will keep coming to the house picking fights and starting drama to make him self feel better. But I still feel like a bad daughter. So aitah for kicking my mom out and putting my family and there feeling first?