u/Puzzleheaded-Good958

Disclaimer: I started watching lock up late and have not yet watched the finale (just seen up to the 5 finalists being selected). I’ve seen spoilers on social media so know that Shreya won. But I also see so much hate for Shivangi online and I’m genuinely confused why. People say it’s because she was a bad friend to Harshad and left him feeling guilty which eventually led to him leaving and making her finalist. But having watched that episode, I don’t know what Shivangi did wrong. She was playing for herself and Harshad came back saying he was playing for himself- fair. When she said that she’s not leaving that feast cage, it was her right to say that cause she was playing for herself, as was he. He used the thing about losing on purpose to guilt trip her into leaving and that’s when she got annoyed. And I kind of get it. She even said “you could’ve pitched something else to make me leave, you could’ve said anything”. But instead, he guilt tripped her to make her leave. She saw that as him playing dirty and guilt tripping her, and coming from a friend, it hurt more. And I kind of agree- play a fair game and make me leave on a fair basis, not by counting your favours to me (which you did on your own accord and nobody asked that of you). Then when Shreya picked her to be terminated, she said again and again that it was Shreya’s decision and said no to Harshad. So I don’t get where she’s manipulated him or used him or is this awful person people are making her out to be?

Husband (32M) and I (31F) have been married over a year. The first year was rocky. His 60+ mum (widow) only has him and has some serious insecurities after we got married. She would make random taunts to our faces, would go and complain to her mum who in turn would have a go at me. They made some awful comments. Husband initially used to put it off saying “they don’t mean that”, it’s just banter, “this is just how they are, they’re not bad people”. Slowly he started supporting me. He’s had chats with his mum telling her to fix up. She is slowly changing but let’s see if she can sustain this. Anyway, every time I think about the past and what they’ve said about me and my family, my blood boils and I can feel rage for them. I don’t know how to move past this and try to forgive them so that the future can be better. If she’s trying, I’ll try again too but can’t fully put myself into it given the hurt and pain. Any advice? What gets me is that they never apologised for anything they said, and that means something to me. Especially given that she always goes on about how she can’t sleep at night if she’s done the wrong thing. And I asked my husband “did she ever lose sleep over what she did to me?”. Obviously there was no answer to this. I just want to move past this and don’t know how to.

This is a vent but also a cry for help. I’m fed up of my MIL’s need to know every detail of everything that doesn’t concern her. Just last week I called (I call once a week) and she asked what our plans for weekend were- I said we’ll come and visit Friday night and leave after dinner on Saturday as I had something on on Sunday. So she asked what I had on. Me trying to be nice and form a relationship mentioned it was an art class. She asked where it was- I already found this strange as she doesn’t know the area that we live in that well, but she always asks and I get annoyed. I told her the general area. We then visit her on the weekend and she says to me “I looked up art classes in that area and couldn’t find anything for Sunday”. 2 problems here- first you’re implying I lied, second why are you stalking me by googling where I’m going at what time etc. This is very weird behaviour. She’s a widow living alone and only works 2 days a week so is clearly bored. We’ve tried telling her to do some activity, fitness etc but she just doesn’t. She’s always been overly nosey and wants to know everything going on, for example when my parents visited us- what did we eat, who brought the food etc. Now it’s all getting too much and mild stalkerish. She then shares all information about me and my family to random people from the mandir, her colleagues and her extended family. I’ve told husband I’m getting fed up of this and he’ll talk to her. But if she asks such interfering none of your business questions how do I politely shut her down. I’m fed up of giving her explanations and telling her every detail.