u/QuickNature

I have a cursory introduction to this through school, but I've been out a while know, so much of it is fuzzy.

What are some good resources to dig deeper into this topic? And motors in general to be fair. Web resources and books welcome. Also, good YouTube videos too.

Thanks in advance! Looking forward to learning something more on the topic

Overwhelmingly the week+ leading up to this was good.

She posted some photos from our vacation, and I made it a point to like it (I dont always like everything because I am not super active out of public pages, but for this post I made it a point to, other things she has shared/sent I havent looked at/liked to be fair), not do the love reaction. She brought this up that I "only liked it, not loved it", and I said why does it matter?

She said because it matters to her, and admittedly, I got a little heated because I am not a social media appearance person, and she should know this by now as I have said before I dont really care for social media that much. Regardless, I did, reluctantly, say I would love it, not just like it for her. It took me a few hours to do it, but I did.

Then we were at the store like I said we would be. No expectations for the day, I said we would go to a market, go to a store I wanted to go to, then a store she wanted to. That was it for the day. Nothing else was expected, and she even said it was supposed to rain, and offered to drive us because I had been driving us around all week, and 2 almost full day drives.

Almost immediately just cruising up to my store, I could tell she was a little annoyed, but I let it be. Then when I was looking some stuff over, she asked if were actually going to get anything (I was kinda blindly window shopping, didnt communicate this to her because I didnt feel I needed to, kinda thought it was obvious, and it wasn't apparently). She then claimed we were wasting time that we could be doing other household projects (mostly outdoors stuff, despite the rain). For reference, this was roughly 30 minutes before her store opened, on a day that there were no expectations for me to do anything. She had even previously acknowledged that I offered to go to her store on a day that I didnt want to do *anything*.

She asked to go somewhere, I said no, then I eventually caved and say yes. Historically I dont like to drive that much, and I dont like surprises, so I generally say no, but will adapt. This seemed to be a tipping point for her. It was all downhill from there. She got really annoyed because I didnt want to look over some stuff for a project we were supposed to complete a while back now.

I tried to calm down, and we went inside. We started looking at some products we had previously been looking at, and I forgot that we were going to repair what we had already. This started a further downhill slide between us. I definitely started to get annoyed, more so than before at this point. She accused me of screaming at her (I was a little heated, but *definitely* not screaming, I would say whisper screaming might be more accurate, not loud).

As we walked away, we were still bit heated, then she eventually said "shut the fuck up" and walked away (I know she threw some shade at me, I dont think I did, but I honestly dont remember). I sat in my truck until she was done with her shopping, we sat in silence on the drive back, and didnt end up going where she wanted because the rain was pretty bad.

I dropped her off and left almost immediately because I was angry, and I dont want to speak when I am angry and say rude stuff. We did through text a little bit, and today we have been mostly radio silent.

There's been a little back and forth but its strained today. All I am asking for is chill, and to let me adapt to what she wants, even if my answer isnt immediately what she wants. I have cancelled some stuff in the past, but got better about it when she brought it up as an issue.

I tried my best to portray things as objectively as possible, and add as much context as I could, but I suspect some bias made its way through. AITAH?