Should I start going on dates with other men?
I’m 27 (f) and my ex boyfriend is 33 (m). We were in a relationship for about a year and a half and we were about to get engaged and broke up officially today. In the beginning of our relationship my ex boyfriend said to me he didn’t want a full monogamous relationship in the future (only him seeing others- he doesn’t want me seeing others). I’m a virgin waiting marriage and that really hurt me as that’s everything against I believe. I told him we either break up or you go to therapy to figure this out. He said he’ll go to therapy. We did couples therapy, he has his own therapist. He told me he’s never loved a woman this much in his entire life and he took me ring shopping etc. We recently got into a fight over the monogamy topic and said we need to end because he learned this is who he is and I need to decide now if I should I’ll join him on this life. He said he doesn’t want to break up but I have to be aligned with him on this and he’s in thousands dollars of debt he can’t spend any more time and money on this topic. This extremely hurt me not understanding how he can lose all of this just for occasional one night stands. I feel hurt from this but this topic has been on going for so long that I know exactly what I want and I’m ready to settle down. I can’t tell if it’s too soon for me to be going on new dates. This of course hurts my heart because I loved him but I feel like I’ve been processing this for a long time.