u/RaggyTheRagingRuggy

As title says. Id say im socially awkward. I stumble over my words, I say the wrong thing sometimes (like when someone says goodbye and you say thank you type of way), I’m not brilliant at looking at someone for a long period of time when speaking 1 on 1 (I’ll look at there mouth mainly and then maybe when I’m speaking I’ll look off to my side or something) and I feel like slightly awkward when having a social interaction. Like at work I always say sorry if I’m squeezing pass them or mess something up or whatever. I think also before a social interaction that’s new I get quite socially anxious. I guess I just dread it but then once I’m talking I am relaxed but I’m just socially awkward.

I think the biggest thing for me is like thinking of things to say to people which is the main advice I’m looking for. Just making what social interaction I have a bit lengthier. Like I don’t know if it’s just a British thing but if someone asks how your day is it’s literally like
Person 1: “how’s yours day been?”
Person 2: “yeah not bad, what about yours?”
Person 1: “yh fine”

And I guess I want to try and expand that. I will give myself props. I think once someone gives me a nugget of information I do think I can dig deeper and ask lots of questions about the subject matter.

I don’t know what it is though but I’ve actually realised that people genuinely do not ask about you very often if at all. There’s so few people that don’t really try and find out about you other than surface level stuff.

I guess I just want to thrive socially. Have lots of friends especially gain more girl friends just because I do like hanging around with girls in a friendly way like at work sometimes I enjoy talking to my female colleagues more than my male ones. I just want to go in a room and talk to anyone and not necessarily be the life of the party as such but just be able to bounce around a room talking to different people and sort of not seem like the awkward unsure one that just sits in a corner or sticks to 1 person.

Is there anyone that used to be like me that can give me almost life changing life advice whether that’s a book, a video, internal thoughts they have of there own when going into a social situation etc etc…

Thanks

So I’m in a bit of a gaming drought atm.

I’m trying to find a game that makes me feel like really small compared to the world (big map, big buildings, really soaking in the scenery kinda vibe) but also a weirdly cozy/comforting game. I felt like this with breath of the wild. I played it during Christmas and I remember just staying up till 3am with hot coco a blanket wrapped and getting lost in the world around me and it was such a cool experience.

I don’t really have any major criteria’s ideally an open world game and a modern game too (say within the last 10-15 years or so.

I hope people sort of get what feeling I’m trying to capture sort of cozy, nostalgic, warm and sort of lonely. Best physical way I can describe it is it being late at night and you have a big window next to your bed and it’s raining outside. It’s like a unique feeling. Any suggestions would be cool. Open to anything really

Looking for a EDC camera? Not sure what to pick

So I have a Sony A6700 I got given by a friend as he was upgrading and didn’t want to sell it.

And I’m loving it. But it’s a camera camera. Sure it’s not a full frame but it’s very obvious that it’s not like a ‘fun’ bring camera to family gatherings or going out with friends camera. It’s my ‘pro’ camera even tho I’m 100% not a pro but I hope you get what i mean

Now there’s times I go out and I just wouldn’t bring a camera with me because I’m not looking to take photos

But I’m looking for an everyday type camera.

My inspiration is from my mum. In sitting room we have a big chest of literally thousands of photos that she’s taken of mainly when she was younger in the 80s, 90s and early 00s.

And I want that. Not with a film camera like she did because that would be super expensive. But just a nice easy to use and genuinely fun camera that I can bring on holiday, when I go to the beach, when I go out with my family, when I go out with friends, when I go skiing etc etc… and my idea is to get them printed slowly and also keep them in my own little box so I can eventually show my kids one day like she did with me. I know it’s all a little romanticised but I just think it would be cool.

Having 1 camera where it’s still fun to use but used in more serious and intentional ways (the Sony) and then a fun going out/holiday camera that’s more taking photos of memories and I don’t have to edit. It’s all SOOC

So any suggestions. Honestly I’m thinking of a FujiFilm like X100V or a RicohGR3. Mainly because film simulations are really appealing to me even if some think it’s a gimmick

Budget is probably like £1000 max. Maybe a little bit more tho

So, I don’t want to self diagnose but I’m pretty sure I have slightly social anxiety. I’ve always struggled to not overthink social situations. Like if Im about to be 1 on 1 with someone (like someone leaves the room or goes to get drink) I sort of panic because I hate 1 on 1 situations the most.

Like if I’m with my best friend or my sister or mum or someone I’ve known for a long time like I don’t even think about it. But like when I try and think “right why don’t I just use how I talk to my best friend as a template to talk to someone” but its almost like I forget how I act around him because its so natural. Like around him or my sister I’m just strange but in a funny way. Like I’ll dance in a stupid way. Or sing in the worst way possible or make weird funny noises. But when I’m with new people I sort of go into a shell a bit

I just want to master the art of talking to anyone for a long period of time.

Like if I’m working with the same person for 2-3 days in a row at work. Normally I’d ask how there weeks been or how’s there days been. But unless something genuinely meaningful that happened most British people will say “It was alright” and leave it at that. I do it too.

There’s a few people at work, 2 girls and 1 guy, who I feel like I get on well with. And I feel sort of comfortable around them but I’m just trying to find out how I can sort of just speak to them all day everyday. And mess around with them and be silly with.

And I know people say “ask questions”. And yes. I know. It works and can work for a whole shift especially when you’ve first met them. However my issue is. Once I’ve sort of known there hobbies, or interests I sort of don’t really know what to talk about. I don’t know how to delve deeper. Because my brain in the moment goes blank a little.

Anyone here who’s sort of been in my position to now being able to go into any room and talk to anyone no matter what gender, age or whatever. And what changed it for you other than “putting yourself out there” because I think I do