Boyfriend being weirdly hostile and competitive with husband
EDIT: This post may seem like I'm underreacting, but I assure you guys I'm not. I know [boyfriend] is abusive, I just tolerated until it started affecting [husband]. I appreciate the support.
I'm just so frustrated.
My husband is a really sweet person who just wants to be chill with everyone. He has nothing but positive vibes for his meta and doesn't want any kind of conflict.
This morning:
Boyfriend asked for husband's number to share a few saucy pics of me with him.
Husband agreed I could give him his number for this purpose.
Boyfriend sends saucy pics, along with a passive aggressive message saying "it's better you don't reply unless I tell you to", "we are not going to be friends" etc.
If you don't want to interact, don't ask for his fucking number then??
Boyfriend is... Weird, at this point. He'll bring up my husband and say he respects him and so on, then like 20 minutes later make an offhand negative comment. The comments overstep in a way that feels competitive e.g. "I can't believe he doesn't fuck you more often, if I lived with you I wouldn't be able to keep my hands off you". I always shut it down with "I'm perfectly happy, we both have busy lives, please don't comment on [husband name] and my sex life".
...Then he says the same shit again a few days later. 🤦♀️
I'm [edit: DEFINITELY] going to cut things off with [boyfriend], I just feel bad because it seems hierarchical to prioritise one person over the other, but he's the one forcing a competition where there doesn't need to be one. EDIT: I described this badly but there's a lot more to it. Boyfriend has accused me of treating him as secondary for many reasons, in hindsight I think he was being manipulative and they weren't really fair points.
This man also thinks we're all going to have a threesome (which husband and I were receptive to before he got weird), and keeps talking about how it'll be fine "as long as [husband] does what he's told". Nope! Nope. Aaaaargh.
Thanks for reading.