u/RaisedEyebr0w

I (49f) met a guy last night after chatting for a week. I knew immediately I was not attracted to him: he looked about ten years older than his pictures and about 20lbs heavier. After speaking for a few minutes I confirmed with myself that there was zero attraction.

I considered cancelling the date but he seemed so happy and eager. Plus we each had driven a half hour to meet in the middle. He's a nice guy. Interesting. Pleasant. We each had a drink.

I decided to make the best of it and asked questions and was engaged. He clearly thought the date was going well. He kept leaning in more and more and found my body language leaning backward. I kept all of the conversation very platonic.

Thoughts on how to deal with this in the future? Cut bait immediately? Be less engaging? Tell him up front that I feel no attraction but we can still have a nice evening? I'd especially appreciate how men would prefer a woman respond when your attraction is not reciprocated.

Does anyone know of a running group link or other avenue to try to sell one or two Golden Leaf Half Marathon bibs? I missed the official transfer date with race organizers.

Thanks!!

I've had a few dating experiences with men that seem to tank because our first sexual experience included some awkwardness and ED. I'm very open sexually and am experienced enough to understand that while very fun, penises can be fickle and shy. First time jitters with a new partner are just a fact that shouldn't be a deal breaker.

So what's the thought process going on when his penis doesn't cooperate appropriately? I try not to make a big deal of it and just continue touching and connecting. Truly not a big deal - a few more attempts and we'll likely have shaken the rust out and be attuned to each other's bodies.

Instead there seems to be a tendency to ghost/fade on dude's part. And these are guys who don't seem like players who are just looking to hit it and quit it. Their words and actions regarding wanting a relationship were very aligned. Are they really so embarrassed that they will throw away a promising relationship and lots of chemistry/compatibility over a single sexual misfire?

TLDR: older dicks are unreliable, NBD?

I will remodel my condo kitchen next June. I'm combining the small kitchen and dining rooms into a single larger room with a peninsula. Everything will be new and I need to take down a wall and have extensive electrical work completed.

I hope to be able to design well in advance and shop some sales for cabinets, sink and appliances. I'm curious how long in advance I can buy appliances before they need to get delivered? Is this possible or do I just need to wait for the memorial day sales and hope what I want is reduced?

Any advice?

Does anyone know when the annual sorority garage sale will happen?

Thanks!