▲ 4 r/BDSMPsychology
Dominant, sex addict.
I wanted to ask for some help because I’m actually feeling pretty confused, even though, in many ways, I’m in a very comfortable situation.
For the past three or four years, I’ve known that I’m a dominant person. I’m gay, and I’m very attracted to dominating men, especially men who enjoy being feminized. Over time, I’ve become more and more involved in this dynamic and increasingly focused on it.
The problem is that I feel like I’ve become addicted to sex. This past weekend alone, I was with six different guys. These encounters involve domination, feminization, and consensual BDSM. I enjoy it immensely, and in some ways it has been very good for my self-esteem.
But at the same time, I feel like I may be falling into a bottomless pit because I can’t seem to stop having sex or looking for it. I’m thinking about it constantly. I spend the entire day on Grindr. Sex is extremely easy for me to find, which makes controlling the behavior even harder.
I can’t seem to stop. I’m constantly thinking about sex and feeling sexually aroused. People keep contacting me, and even when I delete Grindr and try to stay away from it, half an hour later I find myself reinstalling it, creating another account, and talking to people again.
For the past few months, my weekends have basically revolved around sex, and it happens during the week as well, including around my work schedule. I feel like I’m constantly looking for another sexual encounter.
And that’s where I’m confused. On one hand, it feels incredibly comfortable because I’m sexually satisfied all the time, and I don’t feel guilty about it. But on the other hand, I’m starting to wonder whether I’m spending so much of my life pursuing sex that I’m losing other parts of my life in the process.
I don’t know whether this is simply a very high sex drive or whether it has become unhealthy. What I do know is that I feel as though I’ve lost control over it. I feel addicted to sex.
u/RaphaelGuim — 9 days ago
▲ 52 r/Ocarina
STL ocarina - The paint quality is terrible
I bought this beautiful and very expensive ocarina from STL Ocarina. I paid a fortune to import it to Brazil—almost as much as the price of the instrument itself just in taxes and import fees.
In less than a month, the paint started coming off. What was once a beautiful ocarina has become dull and worn-looking, and now the paint is literally peeling away. At this rate, I’m sure that in less than three months I’ll end up with a completely black ocarina.
The paint quality is extremely poor.
I sent STL Ocarina an email to complain about the issue, but I never received a response. It’s disappointing to see such a well-known and respected ocarina company produce an instrument with such poor finishing quality.
The sound is excellent. Musically speaking, the ocarina is nearly perfect. But the paint job? I am extremely disappointed. I paid a lot of money for this instrument and expected much better quality.
Honestly, it would have been better to buy a simpler model without such elaborate artwork and decoration if the finish wasn’t going to last. At least it would have been less expensive.
If STL doesn’t respond to me, I don’t think I’ll ever buy from them again. I’d rather purchase from local artisans or even import from China. I also own a plastic ocarina, and I know this kind of problem won’t happen with it. In fact, some plastic ocarinas sound surprisingly good.
Anyway, I’m very disappointed.
Has anyone else experienced something like this with STL Ocarina?
u/RaphaelGuim — 2 months ago