u/Rare-Scallion-9692

I am a FTM to 11 month old b/g twins and let’s just say the transition has been a lot. I am a very type B person, very relaxed with household chores and generally not the most tidy. So I have had to adjust rapidly with the twins and I have been working so hard on becoming more organized for them.

With that, I have made a few shortcuts that has made my life so much easier but both my mom and partner disagree with. The first one has been not folding their clothes. I just put them in bins and leave it at that. The second one might be controversial - I don’t worry about them wearing matching socks. I just can’t keep up with all the tiny socks. Anyways my mom has called me “an amazing mother but a slob” and will come over and fold all their clothes because she does not agree with them just being in bins. My partner hates the mismatched socks but my opinion is I’d rather spend my time with them than organizing socks and folding clothes 😅 what are other parents of multiples doing?? Are these short cuts understandable? I feel like I’m drowning sometimes.

I have finally made the decision to start my 11 month old b/g twins (9 months corrected) in daycare twice a week. It is an in home daycare that I toured and it seems great but I am just so nervous. My twins are very different from each other, one is crawling and standing and the other just sits and has some feeding troubles. I also feel somewhat selfish making this decision as it is partially for my own mental health. I want to go back to work (as a nurse) because it is so hard for me to be in the house with them all day. Any advice on this transition would be so appreciated.

Hello! I have always had OCD as long as I can remember, officially diagnosed as a child. Recently I was pregnant and gave birth and my OCD ramped up into an almost paranoid state where I believed people were trying to poison me. I gave birth to my beautiful twins and now I never want to go through pregnancy ever again. The birth was an emergency c section at 2 months premature with hemorrhage and preeclampsia, basically everything that could have gone wrong did. Hence my irrational fear of becoming pregnant again. I am always taking pregnancy tests even though my husband has a confirmed vasectomy and we use condoms. Despite this I plan on getting my third copper iud inserted next week (I’ve had them put in then taken out). My husband is very disappointed in me and our sex life, but my pregnancy and birth was just so hard and I cannot go through that again. Any advice or people with similar fears?