Hurt feelings
I’ve been dating a man now for close to seven weeks. I’m very into him, and he usually makes me feel he’s very into me as well, but he kind of hurt my feelings last night and I’m not sure if I’m overthinking it.
A few weeks ago we made plans to spend the weekend out of town together, for Memorial Day. I took an extra day off so we’d have more time. He then remembered he had cousins coming to stay about 30 mins from us for two weekends, including Memorial Day, and wanted to spend some time with them, so we canceled the trip. This is fine. I understand he doesn’t see these people much. He asked me last week if I still wanted to take the extra day off, which I thought was a bit odd, but I told him yes.
I met them last weekend and we had plans to spend Friday & Saturday with them. The three of them talked about getting together mid week for dinner as well.
He and I planned to get together on Wednesday evening, but he called me and said he’d heard from his cousins they were coming up to town that night and they were having dinner, so he wouldn’t be able to see me until Thursday. Then he asked AGAIN if I still planned to take Friday off.
I felt hurt. He canceled OUR plans to spend the evening together to spend time with them, and didn’t invite me to join them. I get he wants to see them, and maybe wants alone time. But between that and then asking me again if I’m still planning to take Friday off, after we already discussed this AND had plans to spend that day together with his cousins makes me feel like he doesn’t want me there. Am I wrong to be upset about this? How should I talk to him about it without sounding clingy and needy?