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Company I’m interviewing wants me to install monitoring software, they haven’t even sent me any agreement.

Hey a company I'm interviewing wants me to install remote access and monitoring software for my PC, it'll mainly monitor audio and what applications opened and closed.
Now I'm not fully against it, but it is strange they aren't providing a laptop. Though I get there's a cost, but what I don't understand is they want me to download this and install this and turn it on prior to giving me any agreement to sign.

And I won't be starting until 5 weeks later. So I have not agreement, never been on-boarded yet, and the start date is 5 weeks but this software needs to be installed prior to all this?

How many people have experienced this order of operations.

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u/Real-Friendship8733 — 1 day ago

Regret and Confusion over moving out without approval

I’m curious what other people think about my situation because I feel like I’m stuck between logic and emotion.
I (M27) - Indian if that matters, I turned 27 in January. I live in Texas. I have a little over $60k saved, and I’ve made around $80k over the past 10 months. My income is performance-based, so it’s not as stable as a typical salary, but I’ve been consistently earning at that level.
I recently moved out into an apartment that costs just under $1,600/month.
Growing up, my parents were extremely overprotective and controlling. I always had to ask permission to do things. Even into my mid-20s, there were restrictions on when I could leave the house or come home, just few months ago I couldn’t be out past midnight. It got to the point where moving out felt like the only way I’d ever have a normal adult life.
Recently, though, I finally put my foot down. Since then, they’ve actually backed off a lot. They’re much less controlling than they used to be.
The problem is that they still tell me I made a huge mistake by moving out. They keep saying I’ve ruined my life, that I’m throwing away my future financially, and that I should have stayed at home. Even though I have over $60k saved and my rent is under $1,600/month, hearing that over and over has really gotten into my head.
The confusing part is that even though things have objectively gotten better, I feel more angry than before.
Part of me feels guilty for moving out because I keep wondering, “What if they’re right? What if I actually ruined my life?” But another part of me remembers how overwhelming it felt before, and why I wanted my own place so badly.
Has anyone experienced something similar? Why would I feel more anger after the controlling behavior mostly stopped? Is this a normal reaction after growing up with helicopter parents, or is there something I’m missing?

TL;DR:
27M with solid savings and income moved out of controlling parents’ home to gain independence. Parents have eased up but constantly feeling I made a huge mistake, which is causing self-doubt and guilt. Despite improved circumstances, i feels more anger and confusion, wondering if this emotional response is normal after growing up with overprotective parents.

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u/Real-Friendship8733 — 28 days ago