I could use some advice on how to deal with a guy at the gym I go to…
All right, guys. So there’s a guy at the gym that I’m attracted to who I can’t figure out for the life of me if he’s into me or not. If any of you have advice on how to handle this situation, I’d greatly appreciate it.
He’s been giving me glances and looks for months, and a few weeks ago we started having our first few conversations, usually about music. He randomly comes up to me (he’s done this three times now) and has shown me certain songs on his phone, asking me my age, where I went to college, etc. It’s very evident he’s interested in me, I just don’t know if it’s as a friend or otherwise. I asked him about one of the tricep exercises he does, and he briefly explained about it, then proceeded to tell me if I ever needed help with it, to let him know.
Last week, he commented on my appearance, telling me I’m “looking lean, bro.” I told him thank you. Today, I said hi to him and he straight up winked at me. I was taken aback because usually guys don’t do that with other guys, especially at the gym. Maybe I’m just in my head.
But then as I proceeded to make my way to one of the machines, he literally inserts himself in my path and goes, “Eyeglasses?” Referring to my new prescription glasses that I just started wearing to the gym. I told him, yeah, I had eye surgery and need to wear them now. I start to continue on my way and then he goes, “Triceps?” Referring to our previous convo where he offered to help me with mine. I look at him and go, “Well, today is shoulders. I usually do triceps on Sundays.” He goes, “Well, luckily I do triceps twice a week.” And just stares at me. So I said, “Yeah, if you can show me the ropes on Sunday, that would be great.” So now I have to prepare for Sunday. Lol.
I guess my question is, am I feeding too much into this? I mean it’s clear he’s interested in something, I just don’t know if it’s romantically/sexually or just a friendship. And lastly, how in the world should I go about this? I want him to know I’m interested, but I don’t want to put myself out there and then get hurt later on. Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you!