My (21M) gorgeous girlfriend (21F) is devastated that her college "fame" has faded. Am I wrong to feel hurt?

My (21M) gorgeous girlfriend (21F) is devastated that her college "fame" has faded. Am I wrong to feel hurt?

My girlfriend(21F) and I (21M)have been together for almost 3 years, long before college. We both ended up at the same engineering college. She is very pretty(she looks more of an european and also very pretty)Right at the start of our first year, she unexpectedly won "Miss Freshers." Literally overnight, her social status exploded.

It was absolute chaos. Her Instagram , Whatsapp was flooded with DMs from random seniors, guys were staring at her everywhere, and people started taking creepy, revealing photos of her from weird angles at the event. Because of the photos, some really nasty rumors about her character started floating around campus. At that time she said she isnt liking it that much , and was overwhelmed.

Fast forward to now: first year has ended. The hype has completely died down. But out of nowhere, she’s started crying and having emotional breakdowns about it.

She is saying , that was the best time of her life , she keeps complaining how guys dont stare at her anymore like in beginning.She is literally crying because she feels "forgotten." She keeps saying it’s a "Big W if the whole college knows you at once". At college too she would repeatedly have breakdowns , if she goes somewhere and not stared that much, when i go with her , she even says now everyone knows im her bf so nobody looks that much as they maybe scared of me. She even says things like - " Its always the spring that is short lived and winter that lasts long".

When I called her out on this desperate need for crowd approval, she just said: "I love being in the limelight, everyone does. That has nothing to do with my love for you." Its true she is loyal to me, i havent found any signs of disloyalty from her , But how am i going to deal with the fact that my attention my love isnt enough for her to keep happy?

I love this girl to death, she was my everything, She is my best friend, the compatibility we have in every choices is unreal. But this thing i just cant accept , therefore i want to ask, Is it normal for highly attractive girls who get a taste of the limelight to become this dangerously addicted to attention? Is she just deeply insecure, or am I actually the bad guy here?

u/Reasonable-Elk-8469 — 20 hours ago

21M , heavily distressed should i hold on or walk away?

okay so the context is me and my gf has this rlsnsp for almost 3 yrs. Currently studying in same college , we met in 11th, came to rlsnsp in 12th took a drop yr fr jee and somehow made it to the same college(NIT); After 4-5 months of our rlsnsp while in drop year , i had said her to not do a certain number of things like not this kind of dresses , outing with male frnds etc . At that time a drop yr really took a toll on my mental health and i later understood my mistakes when she said me its being too much for her and i fixed things and keep things normalised and things are quite normal now , i dont quite stop her from anything. But anytime a fight comes up she would always keep bringing that thing that i was toxic and said her not to do certain things.She did a lot of mistakes too, lied multiple times to me, kept me feeling unloved ; but everytime an argument happens she would always bring it up and make me feel i am the worst. I cant take it anymore , i realise it was my mistake , fixed it too , but now even asking for a small consideration feels like an ugly fight upcoming.. i feel so bad, we loved each other so much , emjoyed so much . she is my bestfriend she means the world to me , things feel so bad now i feel too much helpless , my every dream was around her, now my world seems falling apart

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u/Reasonable-Elk-8469 — 5 days ago
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To the communists of Kolkata: Why does the theory fail every time it takes power?

I’ve been reading a lot of Marxist theory lately, and honestly, on paper, it sounds like a perfect, beautiful ideology. Its critique of capitalism is incredibly compelling. But looking at history, I’m stuck on a massive paradox: why does it seem to fail every single time it forms a government?
Every communist state has either collapsed economically, like the USSR, or degenerated into an authoritarian dictatorship. Even the surviving communist nations like China and Vietnam had to introduce massive socio-capitalist market reforms just to save their economies and lift their populations out of poverty.

u/Reasonable-Elk-8469 — 15 days ago