u/ReasonableConcern351

I’m feeling like I failed to prepare my baby for life by not having the confidence to let others watch him.

He’s spent 2-3 hours with my husband or his uncle a bunch of times and was fine but generally doesn’t like anyone else and I’ve been on maternity leave so I didn’t see a need to leave him with anyone really.

I tried taking him to play group every day since 10 months to socialize him and he had fun there not being clingy to me.

He’s started daycare now and has been crying for hours every day and now I can’t help but blame myself.

Has anyone else been through this? Does it get better?

He’s only done half days at daycare and the provider doesn’t want to go to full days because he cries so much.

My baby is 12.5 months old and started daycare at a home daycare 2 weeks ago. We did an hour a day with me present for a week, then half days last week without me.

On the first half day he did really well, napped and ate during the 3 hours he was there. The second day he cried the whole time and the subsequent days he cried on and off but mostly cried and was only ok when they were outside.

Today after the long weekend he cried most of the time and refused to eat.

The provider wants to keep doing half days since he’s having a hard time adjusting but I have to go back to work next week and I’ve been reading that full days are easier for babies to transition to.

Provider also wants me to sneak away instead of saying goodbye but I think this is making him clingier and scared of me leaving. She is adamant though that when I say bye he cries and is angry for longer. Everything I’m reading says not to do this but since I’m a FTM and she is the expert I’ve been going with it and unsure if I should speak up to say I don’t think this is helpful long term.

I’m not sure if this is the right place to ask this, but a home daycare provider that I’m considering going with mentioned that the ministry is going to do an annual check of her daycare this week.

She’s unlicensed and I didn’t think that the ministry does annual checks of unlicensed daycares so it’s making me think maybe there was a previous complaint or something that the ministry is now following up on.

We’re in Ontario. Does the ministry do annual checks for home daycares?

My baby turns 1 next week and I’m so confused about his naps. The last few days he’s been refusing his second nap. Today he stayed awake for 5.5 hours before finally falling asleep in the stroller.

But for his first wake window, he gets cranky around 3 hours and goes down easily.

Here’s where I’m stuck:

If I don’t save the first nap, he only sleeps ~30 minutes and wakes up super cranky

If I do save it, he’ll sleep ~1.5 hours but then refuses the second nap

Last week his schedule was roughly 3/4–4.25/4.5 with about 2 hours total daytime sleep.

Is the long first nap causing him to refuse the second nap? Or is this a sign he’s ready to drop to 1 nap?

Not sure if I should be capping the first nap, stretching wake windows, or just riding this out.