u/ReceptionCharming915

I just graduated from an Ivy League where I was a three season varsity athlete. I was accepted to both West Point and the Naval Academy out of high school, but ultimately chose the school I am at for athletic reasons. I wanted to participate in the NCAA to the best of my ability without the lifestyle aspects of service academy/ROTC programing (lack of sleep, higher stress, etc) which I felt would negatively affect my competition performance. I knew that if I was still interested in a career in military service, I would just re-evaluate that upon my graduation from college. Here I am, a few years later, still very much motivated by the Naval Officer Aviation pipeline, and hoping for any and all comments on that.

I am headed to graduate school for a year, but have the goal of entering OCS around this time next year. I have just reached out to an officer recruiter in my area to get the process started.

What would you say the difference is between officers who matriculated from the Naval Academy and those who participated in OCS? Is there a better time of year to complete OCS? Did most people have aviation experience before heading to flight school (a pilot's license, perhaps, etc?) Do most people re-sign at the end of their initial contract? What are the resources in terms of financial planning and transitioning back into the private sector at the end of your service? Any and all general thoughts and comments, as well as recommended resources would be greatly appreciated.

Hoping for some recommendations for a long/quiet/open etc stretch to do intervals. Road/bike path/etc.

I am a college student home for the summer. I do a lot of biking as cross training for cross country, and I’m wondering if there are any fun cycling clubs, groups in the area that anyone would recommend? It’s obviously just a lot more enjoyable to work in a group, see a new route etc. Even if it’s informal, etc, any recommendations would be appreciated!

A guy and I were friends first for the first three years of college, then ended up in a FWB thing for about 10 months. It got increasingly messy over time. We NOT dating, but we talked a lot, spent a lot of time together, hooked up, fought, etc so it admittedly became a lot.

About 6 weeks ago I crashed out lol. We honestly didn't really hookup at all in the past few months which made things feel super odd. How are you my FWB if we don't even hookup and we just bicker all the time lol? He also was treating me "worse" than he did when we were just friends (I mean with less care, kindness, etc which just got frustrating). At that point he wasn't being a good friend to me, we weren't hooking up, and I would just spend a lot of emotional energy on it.

After that we didn't speak for 3 weeks, and I was super relieved to be done with it tbh. We were graduating anyway and I figured the combination of the fight and graduation would naturally close the chapter.

Then out of nowhere he started talking to me again during the week of grad.

For the past 3 weeks we've been texting pretty regularly. He's the one who restarted contact. He's sending me the Wordle every morning, and just chatting away.

A few days ago he brought up the fight and the fact that I was the one who wanted to stop things, and essentially that it's my fault that I have to "reminisce" about things and don't actually have him anymore.

I did reach a point where I couldn't do the situation anymore, but I always thought the ending was mutual because we were both unhappy with how things were going.

I don't really understand why he came back at all, if the situation wasn't working, and if we're now living an hour apart after graduation, what exactly is the purpose of maintaining contact?

I'm not asking whether he secretly loves me or anything like that. I'm wondering if anyone has had something like this end, go silent, and then restart in this weird low-intensity way? How did you figure out whether staying in contact was actually a good idea? Is there like a common "post-FWB" grey area that people move into?

There’s this guy at my gym who I really like. I know of him because I know his sisters, but he definitely doesn’t know who I am. Would it be weird of me to request him on IG? Tia

Ex boyfriend from ~ a year ago got drafted and I'm wondering if I should text him congratulations.... did not end on bad terms (but nor "good ones") we both just walked away amicably but haven't stayed friends or anything. I've run into him a few times and we chat for a bit and hug but that's it. Obviously it's a big accomplishment and I know how much/what it means to him, but I don't want to overstep. I don't have any role in his life anymore...