My husband’s back pain is affecting almost all aspects of his life but he’s given up seeking help.
I would like to preface my husband HAS tried some things and nothing seems to work. I feel like he’s tired of trying and now just chooses to thug it out, I hate seeing him in pain and want to help him to get better.
My husband has a strenuous trade job where he’s often bending and lifting heavy objects. He also plays sport about 2-3 times a week. He’s had back pain for a good 5-6 years and when we saw the dr last (which was last year) he did an mri which shows small bulged discs in L3/4 and L4/5. He has a large bulged disc in L5/S1 that is compressing the S1 nerve.
He’s got the works of symptoms, tightness in his leg, he’ll twinge it here and there and struggle to walk, his hips are asymmetrical, he experiences pain 24/7. He find the pain to be worse when he’s laying down too much or resting too much. He’s tried a chiro, physio, massages and exercising to no avail. We have an inversion table but he doesn’t use it much. We’ve been told he may need surgery but he really doesn’t want to do that. I’ve tried to get him to at least see a surgeon to talk about other options but I don’t know if they’ll just push surgery. He’s now refusing to seek professional help because he thinks they can’t do anything. I’ve also recommended a change of job but that’s not possible at the moment.
It affects almost all aspects of his life, including sleep, and he just deals with it without complaining. I just don’t know what else to do to help him and would love some advice on things he can do. Or if I should encourage him to get surgery..