u/RelentlessForward59

I’m a male ultrarunner in my late 50s with several 100-mile finishes. Over the last few years, I’ve been lifting more consistently, and I feel like it’s helping both my endurance and recovery. I’m wondering whether increasing strength training to three or four sessions a week would help me keep running strong as I get older—or just add more fatigue. For those balancing lifting with ultra training: * Have you found two, three, or four sessions a week works best? * Do you lift before or after running, separate the sessions by several hours, or lift on non-running days? * How do you schedule leg workouts around long runs? * What improvements have you noticed, and when does lifting start to interfere with recovery? My goal is to stay strong and keep enjoying long-distance running for years to come. I’d especially appreciate hearing from runners in their 50s and beyond, but everyone’s experience is welcome.

I’m 59M, active, established, and genuinely enjoy female companionship. I’d ultimately like to find a long-term relationship, but I also don’t feel like every woman I meet has to become a romantic partner for the connection to be worthwhile.

I run, lift, swim, do yoga, travel for races, and love outdoor activities. I’d be perfectly happy meeting someone who wants to hike, work out, run, grab dinner, see a movie, or just enjoy doing things together—even if it never develops romantically.
What I don’t mean is FWB, hookups, or one-night stands.

For the women here: if a man said he was looking for a long-term relationship but was also genuinely open to platonic female friendships/activity partners, how would you interpret that? And is there a good way to communicate it on Bumble without sending the wrong message?

Active trail runner looking to chat with other like-minded adults about health, fitness, and longevity.
Trail running is my main thing, but I cross-train with open-water swimming (very slowly 😂) and have been lifting consistently for the last few years.
I work in healthcare, so I enjoy talking about the science behind training, nutrition, supplements, and what actually works versus what’s mostly hype.
My big focus this year is recovery — sleep, nutrition, mobility, supplements, balancing training load, and figuring out how to keep doing the things I love for a long time.

Would love to connect with other active adults and hear what’s working for you. What has made the biggest difference in your recovery?

59M. We’ve all talked about the “unicorn” — athletic, financially independent, attractive, has their life together, etc.

But nobody ever talks about the geeks. 😂

Where are the people who love Star Wars, Marvel, sci-fi, movies/series, video games, and can happily spend an evening going down some completely unnecessary nerd rabbit hole?

I’m very active and love being out doing things, but I’m equally happy settling in for a great movie, starting a new series, or debating something ridiculously important…like the proper order to watch Star Wars. 😂

Surely there are a few athletic geeks hiding out there somewhere. 🤓

Anyone else looking for this combination? Have you found your fellow geek in the wild? Please share your experiences — and where you found them!

I’m a 59-year-old guy who’s been a distance runner most of my life, including several 100-mile ultramarathons. Last year I added strength training and swimming for cross-training, and I’ve always kept yoga in the mix.

The surprising part is that I’m making some of the biggest gains of my life. I’m tackling tougher races, recovering faster, and genuinely enjoying training more than ever.

The challenge is time. I’m training about 11–15 hours a week, and if I’m honest, I’d probably do a little more if I could. I’m fortunate to have had a successful career and I’m about 3–4 years from retirement, but I’ve noticed my motivation for work has really declined. I still do my job well and remain professional, but mentally I’m much more invested in training, planning races, and the lifestyle that comes with it. I’m also away fairly often for races.

Has anyone else gone through this in the last few years before retirement? How did you stay engaged at work while your passions were pulling you somewhere else? Did you make any changes that helped, or is this just a normal transition as priorities shift?

I’m not talking about someone who says they like to work out once in a while. I’m talking about women who have made health, fitness, and an active lifestyle a real part of who they are.

I’ve noticed “athletic” can mean very different things to different people. For me, it means someone who has the discipline and consistency to take care of their body because they enjoy living an active, adventurous life—not because they’re chasing a number on the scale.

As someone who loves running, lifting, hiking, and staying active, I’m looking for someone with a similar mindset. Not necessarily an ultramarathoner, just someone who values pushing themselves and investing in their health.

For those of you who have found a partner like that, where did you meet? Running clubs? Climbing gyms? Volunteer events? Somewhere else?

I’d love to hear what’s worked.

I'm 59 and could use some perspective from people who've been through something similar.
I've been dating an amazing woman for a few years. We met online, live about three hours apart, and when we're together our relationship is incredible. We genuinely enjoy each other, have a deep connection, rarely argue, and our kids have met and get along.
The distance worked well at first. We were both newly divorced, taking things slowly, settling into new lives, and being mindful of our kids. We gradually started spending more holidays together.
Fast forward to today, and I'm not sure I'm comfortable with where we're headed.
During the summers we're mostly apart because her college-aged kids come home, and she's adamant about always keeping their home base there. I drive to her most weekends. In the fall and winter she spends more time at my place.
The bigger issue is that my career is tied to where I live. I'm in the medical field and have a practice here. She can work from anywhere, but her parents are aging nearby, her kids are there, and she recently bought another house to renovate in her town. She refers to it as "our house," but realistically it's her house. I don't own it, and emotionally it makes me wonder what future we're actually building together.
We've talked about it openly. Neither of us has a solution. The current plan is to keep things this way for another two years until her youngest finishes college.
Here's what I'm struggling with.
After my divorce, I promised myself I wouldn't ignore issues just because the relationship is otherwise good. Life is short. Two years can easily become four, and I'm not sure I want to spend years waiting for a future that may never look different.
At the same time, I care about her deeply. I'm comfortable being alone, so I'm not staying because I'm afraid of being single. But I also don't date other people because I'm committed to this relationship.
Have any of you been in a relationship where the love was there, but your long-term visions never quite lined up? How did you know whether to be patient or accept that compatibility isn't just about how well you get along?
I'm open to hearing perspectives from either side. I don't think either of us is wrong—I just don't know if we're right for the future.