u/Remarkable_Count632

For context: So we dated for a couple months last year then broke up, then got back together again early this year. We broke up last year because he literally couldn't go half an hour without messaging or calling, and when there were days we wouldn't talk as much for whatever reason he took that as a sign I hated him. He got very overbearing and I couldn't take it anymore so we went on a small break before we broke up.

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He's a genuinely sweet and respectful guy, and I feel awful because there's something about him that just gets on my nerves. I don't know why because he's done nothing wrong: he bakes for me, he'll buy me gifts and write me notes, he gets me flowers, like the list of stuff he does for me goes on. And since we've been back together he's been way less overbearing like he was before we broke up last year. But sometimes I'll get annoyed when he messages me, and he always wants to be going out and doing stuff together when I'm not someone who really wants to be going out every other day. Sometimes I won't even bother opening his messages because I just cba talking to him. He also second guesses everything he says and is constantly deleting messages which got annoying real quick. Being with him can feel more like a chore than anything and I hate that I feel this way. I have thought about ending things between us, but we've got a holiday booked with our friends soon and I would hate to make that awkward for everyone if we did break up. Am I the asshole for feeling like this?? And is there anything I can do to stop it other than break up?