u/Repulsive-Lead-915

So I have pretty weird/vivid dreams sometimes, and about 4- 5 weeks ago I had one that I completely forgot about until a few days ago.
In the dream, I was visiting my hometown, just like I am right now. I randomly met some guy who was apparently a gay friend from my hometown. I had no idea who he was IRL, obviously.
We started talking and he was telling me about the gay culture in our town and how apparently a bunch of people from my old school had come out since I left. Then he mentioned two guys from my school.
One of them was a friend I’m actually still pretty close with. Let’s call him MJ. We’ve known each other forever from school, coaching, sports, everything. Whenever we’re both back home, we usually hang out.
The second guy was basically an NPC in my life. We weren’t even close in school and haven’t really spoken since. We’re just connected on Instagram.
Anyway, fast forward to 3–4 days ago.
I get a message on Grindr from someone who sends me his album.
And guess who it was?
MJ
I genuinely froze for a second because this wasn’t just some random coincidence. I’d literally dreamed a few weeks earlier about him being one of the guys from my school who was gay.
And it gets weirder.
I hadn’t shared my own album yet. But he somehow knew it was me. He started texting me personal stuff like my university, work city etc. basically things that made it very obvious he knew exactly who I was.
He locked his album almost immediately, so I just told him I hadn’t seen it and ignored the rest of his messages.
I thought that would be the end of it.
Nope.
A little later, he called me and asked me to meet him along with another school friend, SK. SK is actually pretty close to me too we hang out almost daily whenever I’m back home.
So the three of us met that evening.
And this is where it got REALLY uncomfortable.
MJ apparently still thought I had no idea that he was the guy from the app.
During the normal conversation, he kept subtly bringing up gay/bisexual stuff. He had apparently spent around two years in Noida for some course, so he started talking about the gay culture there too.
Then the conversation got progressively more explicit.
He started talking about sexual stuff, including how people there apparently don’t care about experimenting, how even straight guys supposedly have sex with other guys, etc.
I was just sitting there thinking bro what the fuck are we doing right now 😭
Then he literally said something along the lines of:
“Kal ko [my name] ko bhi ladke pasand honge toh humein kya farak padega?”
And later he casually dropped:
“Aaj mere ghar pe koi nahi hai, teenon nightout karte hain.”
At that point I was extremely uncomfortable.
The worst part is that this isn’t some random guy I met online. This is someone I’ve known for years. Someone I regularly hang out with whenever we’re both in town.
And on Grindr he had already been telling me I was “hot” and stuff, while apparently thinking I didn’t know it was him.
I don’t have an issue with him being gay/bi or whatever his sexuality is. That’s not the point at all.
The problem is that he kept putting me on the spot with increasingly sexual conversations and comments without knowing whether I was even comfortable with that, while I was sitting there knowing exactly where all of this was coming from.
It genuinely creeped me out.
Like bro… you really didn’t have to do all that 😭

She is highly educated (holds multiple master's) and works a government job (for 15+ yrs), but her mental health has completely deteriorated recently.

I strongly suspect she has developed severe OCD, specifically a subtype called Scrupulosity (this is coming from AI), mixed with contamination fears tied to our religion. She is obsessed with staying "pavitra" (spiritually pure). For example, if she touches a dustbin, she believes she is tainted and has to bathe immediately. She washes clothes incessantly. When maid comes to home- she have to make sure she dont touches anything as it will make things impure and she have wash them again.

Alongside this, she is being heavily influenced by a manipulative religious leader who preaches fear (e.g., "if you don't do this, you will suffer in life"). She listens to him constantly and I believe he is the main culprit here. This guy in all his speeches gives gyan about the all the religious practices we have and try to make his listeners do his way or else whatever pooja you do wont reach to God.

Not just limited to poojas or religious practices but he have heavy influence on her personal lifestyle too, she have even stopped drinking or eating anyting before her first pooja.

The worst part is the rage. If anyone interrupts her rituals, touches her things, or questions the religious leader, she completely loses it. She yells, says highly offensive and illogical things, and has threatened to disown me for questioning her practices. She has stopped living life no movies, no vacations, no music except bhajans, and tries to force us to do the same.

We desperately want to get her to a doctor, but we dont know how to bring this topic up to her. How do I navigate this? Has anyone successfully tricked or gently guided an Indian parent with severe OCD into psychiatric care?