u/RevolutionaryTax7016

So my bf is Colombian, he’s almost finalized his divorce after having to jump through hoops to get it done from the USA. His ex wife and him have a child together and she ended up cheating on him and is actually pregnant with someone else’s kid rn.

He’s been going through this process for a long time cause of being in another country. But his ex wife constantly tries once in a blue moon to call him crying or saying she’s the best thing that ever happened to him or just trying to play victim(I know because I’m there when it happens and he vents to me about the bs), though he never entertains it.

We’ve agreed to keep our relationship hush whenever he calls his child everyday and so his ex wife doesn’t know since he’s also dealing with the legal process of getting his kid eventually over here and his ex wife does everything to berate his name and try and get him to “mess up” during this process.

However recently, last night, after he hung up with his child we were going out to eat dinner and he gets a call. This woman literally called crying saying “why isn’t the divorced finalized yet I’m certain you have someone else new.” And just crying a sob story. And he simply was like “did you seriously call my phone for this bullshit” and she didn’t say anything and hung up. You’d think that would be it, BUT….she reached out to his fucking mother to secretly ask her the same thing asking “Does so and so have someone new, do you know?”. Like wtf??? His mother told both of us today that she called and was asking that and of course his mom didn’t tell her anything and hung up after saying she doesn’t know and saying they weren’t on speaking terms.

But like this is absurd! Like it’s been 3 years just about of this process of their divorce and we just have to pay the lawyer another fee to have the papers officially signed finally. It took this long cause the ex wife wanted to make issues consistently regarding their child together and child support. But also his lawyer is abroad and we had to do a poder especial so the lawyer could start doing more on behalf of him.

It’s so infuriating that I can’t say anything and I’ve been very patient and calm but this is getting ridiculous. Because on top of all of this I’ve been supporting him and also we are trying to get a head started with a lawyer over here so we can actually get married and do the things needed for his green card. And eventually if it’s in the best interest of his child have them move over here. We are financially more stable and better off than his ex wife is. As he’s constantly having to provide money for everything for the child cause the mother can NEVER afford it. It’s absurd I know. But also his child has spoke on their own free will of wanting to move to the USA and even started learning English.

What should we do in this situation, what should I do in this situation? I hate seeing my bf so stressed out like this and constantly dealing with this lunatic.

Okay so I’m still relatively new in the warehouse but I’ve already told them my days off I utilize for college cause I have to flip my whole schedule to day time just to complete art projects especially photographs. They just scheduled me for SET on Sunday my first day off of the week and I CANNOT work that day. I already had to use ten hours of UPT Wednesday due to my car breaking down so I have about 4.5 hours left. Thing is too I lowkey have an interview to go back to DSP work that Sunday too, at the same warehouse. Do I just tell HR this conflicts with my college work. And I feel they didn’t give adequate notice since I work overnight. They just posted this SET time and normally I’m asleep still but something told me to wake up.

So some back story, I worked at an Amazon DSP from August 2025 until April 2026. I was fired right after getting off workers comp not even a week later. I got injured cause of them giving me ungodly routes consistently but I was a top driver and even worked six day weeks during peak season. The DSP I worked for is known for being the hardest one in the warehouse. I recently started in the warehouse and I’m sorry but they pay only $19.50 an hour, in working 1:20AM-11:50AM and it wouldn’t be so bad if it wasn’t for the fact the safety shoes literally kill me and I’m developing plantar fasciitis, they won’t even let me get siga approved shoes cause it “MUST be from Zappos”. I just applied to another DSP today at the same warehouse as my old DSP(currently working inside the warehouse of that one too 😂) and I realized they’re the DSP that’s vans are parked next to my old DSP but start earlier. I remember that old DSP manager telling me that other DSPs would love to take people from ours(old one) cause of the rigorous routes we endured. So I’m wondering if I have a chance to even get the job. I was on unemployment after being fired from the old one and they even confirmed that my old manager claimed they had no suitable work for me due to my injury from the last time. I really miss the DSP jobs cause it works much better for me. Being able to choose when to go on break, I’m amazing at organizing and finishing at a good time where it won’t increase my workload the following day and of course I’d be able to work in the sunlight again. I’m just nervous about them asking regarding my past employment and what to even tell them.