u/Rich-Leadership1340

I have been working as an attorney for children services since I passed the bar two years ago. I am so burnt out from this work & honestly think I hate being an attorney. I definitely hate being in a courtroom. That being said, I am so lost on what to do next & am just looking for advice or ideas on what may be out there for someone like me. I feel like my only options are to apply for other litigation roles & at that point I feel like I may as well stay where I am. Just feeling defeated & unqualified for anything.

I am currently thinking about transitioning to a position in family law. Before making the transition, I am looking to get more info on what practicing in this area is like. Is it a very court heavy position? What is the day to day like? What is the good & the bad? Lawyers in this area would you recommend it?

My parents aren’t around very often but now want alone time with my daughter so she will be more comfortable around them & I don’t trust them to be alone with my daughter. I know telling them this will greatly offend them & I don’t know how to do it kindly.

There have been a few issues but a big one being they live in a different state 8 months out of the year & only come home during the winter months here & there. They are home during the summer but only have the time to come out to see her once or twice a week. That being said when they do come out, they stay for an hour or two at the most & are usually done & head out. We are typically a stop on their way to other plans so they never stay very long. Because of this they don’t know her routines, what she likes, & she is not super comfortable with them. They have never babysat her alone & she is two years old. My mother in law volunteers to watch her for us 3 days a week so her & my daughter are super close & my mom gets upset & the difference in their relationships.

I also have some boundary concerns. My parents, especially my mom refuse to acknowledge any boundaries I set. When I discuss this with them I usually get a comment about all they have done for us we should be grateful (which they have helped us financially with housing). A big boundary that gets ignored & upsets me is with kissing/sharing drinks. My dad gets really bad cold sores frequently. I really don’t want my daughter to get these so I’ve been asking since she’s born that they be careful & not kiss her or share drinks with her. I am still having to remind them & make comments about them being careful. Just the other week my dad let her rub a sore on his lip & then I had to grab her & wash her hands. They just make excuses & don’t acknowledge this when I try to bring it up. Knowing they won’t respect anything I ask them, I am so anxious at the idea of leaving her alone with them. It’s frustrating that after two years I am still bringing this up but they just think I’m overreacting & it’s just a cold sore.

I know this will upset my parents, especially since we do let my in laws watch her & I just don’t know how to handle the situation.

I’ve been working as a prosecutor since I passed the bar, which has been about 2 years. I am completely burnt out from litigation & really not enjoying the job anymore. I am now looking into making a switch to a different area & am interviewing for a trusts & estates position. I am looking for information on what day to day is like for a trusts & estates attorney (obviously different with different employers but just looking for general overviews), the good & bad of a position like this, etc. I thought I hated being a lawyer but think it might just be my current job & am hoping a switch to a new area will help.