u/Rich_Psychology_5589

I can't tell if what I'm feeling is just my "mama bear" instincts and my postpartum hormones or if my MIL is overbearing. Someone give me a sanity check please lol

*For context, my babygirl is a month old.*

She comes over just to hold my baby and I don't get her back for hours. I just sit there waiting for the next time I get to feed my baby just so I can hold her again. This past weekend, we went to my husband's grandma's house and we were there for 5-6 hours. The whole time my baby is being passed around and held by someone. I could not wait to leave. *side note- I had mastitis the whole time* The following morning, we could not get her to sleep for 5 hours. So her cortisol is high and my mama heart just hurts for her. I knew she was stressed and I was doing everything I could to get to sleep. I really think she was over stimulated from the day before. New environment, being passed around to a ton of new people, and my milk supply was decreasing from mastitis. Unfortunately, we had the same family members coming over to our house 30 minutes after I finally got her to sleep. I told my husband I don't want anyone else holding her today. I wanted her to have some consistency and to feel safe while she's coming down from a rough morning. As soon as she's awake, people are petting her head, poking her to wake up so they can hold her, people offering my baby to others. 40 minutes into my baby giving hunger cues my MIL is telling me its good for babies to just lay there and look around while my baby just stares at the TV. Then she's telling my husband sleep training advice so she sleeps longer through the night. My baby is a month old, she barely has a grasp on a circadian rhythm. I want to raise my baby the way I want to without feeling like I'm going to be judged for not taking her advice. My MIL owns a daycare, so I know she has a lot of knowledge, but it feels like she uses that to have an excuse to be overbearing. I know she's excited and I'm trying to be understanding, but I don't want to dread every time she comes over.

Has anyone heard of the ADP system placing a lock on an employee's jurisdiction? Apparently because an employee had a 4th jurisdiction change, the system locked the last entered jurisdiction. So the system is essentially taxing an employee incorrectly because of this lock they initiated. They said the only way around this is to create a new position for an employee, which makes auditing more complicated. Pretty frustrating, ADP is not cheap by any means and I feel like they should be able to correct this on their end.

I'm 35w + 4d and last night was one of those nights that really makes me over being pregnant. It truly brought me to tears. I seriously feel like I have no control over my body.

**Warning-this is gross**

At 11pm I sat up (as best I could) with the feeling that I might puke. I tasted my prenatals and it is one of the worst tastes I've ever had. It tasted like dead rotting fish. I tried to breathe and just wait for the food/acid to go back down. But the taste was so bad that I just projectile vomited all over my bed. Then my husband tried to help me out of bed and gave me a little nudge and I vomited all over the floor next to me. I ran to the bathroom and made it to the toilet to puke again. But this whole time I'm barely breathing because food is coming up my nose. So when I finally get a break from puking, I blow my nose and there's a literal bead size of steak coming out of my nose. So of course I puked again because that just grossed me out even more. AND my pelvic floor is weak so I'm peeing every time I puke. My poor husband is helping clean up and he's about to be sick himself just from the smell. This is where I know I got a good one. We're changing the bedding and he says, "well on the bright side we don't have to change the bedding this weekend." Bless this man because I would be losing it without him. I cried myself to sleep while he held my hand because I was hungry and tired and it was just a new low to pregnancy. It truly is kind of cruel joke to need food and vitamins for yourself and your baby but you can't keep it down. I try not to complain too much and have had a great pregnancy overall, but this I do not care for lol