Feels like a constant up hill battle with lack of sleep, aiming for maintenance at this rate
Have been trying lots to get my Test up, however the suggested diet spikes my cholesterol, TRT thoughts? Any other suggestions…
Whether this proves helpful or someone else can associate I’ve decided to continue on from my post
- we had sex (after love island of course)
- I knew from the foreplay this wasn’t going to be enjoyable for either of us but we pressed on
- she was clearly uncomfortable mid session, I chose to stop, she gets upset, I did it as it’s the respectful thing for me and her
Chat about it the next day
- reiterate I do not want sex like that and would rather wait for her to be actually up for it or not at all
- I say if she wants to just get ‘fu**ed’ then we can go in to it from that angle instead of trying to pretend romance it, we both agree that’s a slippery slope
- she would rather have sex when she doesn’t enjoy it than not at all as I work away a lot and is paranoid a life of celibacy will have me away with others (airline industry)
- she says (although I already knew) the perimenopause stuff has simply eradicated the thought of sex from her mind, I know it’s not her fault and I can never blame her for that, she’s still finds me attractive and loves me
- I emphasise I do need at least some tokens of affection day to day initiated by her though, she acknowledges that lack of affection towards me has not been acceptable
So that’s the follow on from previous. I didn’t turn her down, we tried, the sex went badly as I expected, and a somewhat productive conversation afterwards that won’t lead to more sex, but maybe a happier relationship (for now)
I’m still HLM, it’s a tough pill to swallow, she knows and hates that it’s an issue, she’s on HRT and in perimenopause, that’s why I’m taking this stance of sacrificing any sexual satisfaction in life
I know people who are further down the line in lack of sex will say just take the sex on offer but when you’re staring someone you love in the face you can see it in their eyes and feel it that it isn’t right
For now it’s hope of improvement that will keep me going.
If there’s no improvement down the line then I’m not sure how I’ll feel. Will have to cross that bridge when it comes
Hi all
Me = HLM
her = LLF (2 year old + 6 year old + perimenopause on HRT)
Long story short, it’s been at most twice a month for last 3 years. Reached a point where I said no more pity sex so now it’s about once a month (I can predict the week based on her cycle)
It’s now been 9 weeks since we were last intimate, I won’t ever initiate anymore
I could sense it was coming, it’s so predictable, her cues. She says this morning ‘I shaved last night’ I was going to suggest sex but I thought you looked tired and would shoot me down (THE IRONY!!), so she says ‘I’m ready to go tonight as well’…I just replied ‘thanks for letting me know’
Am I being an arsehole for not really being bothered to do anything tonight? My libido is still sky high I masturbate at least 5 times a week, but intimacy with my partner is so rare nowadays that it feels like it would just be crap and awkward
She’s posing it as if I should be fortunate she’s up for having sex 🤣
Genuinely I would be doing it to please her and not me, not arsed with it
It’s the most comfortable for me. I do it subconsciously
Wonder if this is limiting much if at all
Anyone else?
It feels like I run out of space/the club will ground before the ball if I bring the swing right under and inside
Irons are manageable but with the long we club it’s a disaster
I can’t get the ‘swing out to 2nd base’ either
Any other cues?
Key memory cues are
- try to hit the ball to the two o clock position
- sweep through
- ball further back in stance (than I had previously)