u/Riuchando420

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I am a 28 female I have been married for 7 years to my husband 34 male. Every other week my husband goes and hangs out with his friends and it's not like they're drinking or going to the bars they're literally hanging out at one of their houses playing D&D or Magic the gathering. I have no interest in D&D or magic so I'm happy that he has a group of friends that he can hang out with. He hangs out with friends from 6:00 p.m. to 1:00 a.m. every other Saturday I don't really say anything to him about it because he does deserve to have time to himself even though It can sometimes be an inconvenience but telling him to cancel a night due to life events for a fun activity I would like to do can cause him to complain and get upset that he never gets to hang out with his friends. We currently share a car after his became unrepairable. I also help take care of my younger special needs brother so during the weekends I like to take him out and do something fun for him since he doesn't get to leave the house much during the weekdays.

My husband asked me today if it was okay for him to hang out with his friends this Saturday. I didn't really have anything planned so I told them that's fine he told me okay well I'll be gone from noon to 10:00 p.m. Saturday. That caught me off guard because usually he never takes a full day to hang out with his friends. I asked if he could possibly carpool with a friend so I could have the car but he said that he would need the car. I let him know that I didn't think he needed 10 hours to hang out with his friends and that we could possibly compromise with it may be being just 5 hours he told me that his friends were going to a game store for pre-release and then playing D&D after so they would need the full 10 hours. I let him know that he needs to be realistic and understand that it's not fair to take our only form of transportation to go hang out with his friends for 10 hours while I'm here with my special needs brother it's not fair to either of us. He ended up getting upset telling me that he didn't go out the last two Saturdays so he deserves time to spend with his friends even though I had nothing to do with him not going the last two Saturdays it was due to the fact that one of his friends was out of state visiting family.

I'm irritated we've been married for 7 years and when he argues with me on this I feel like a mom telling her kid that he can't hang out with his friends and it really shouldn't be that way in a marriage. Am I being a b!tch for wanting him to be realistic about how much time he spends with his friends?.

So AITA for telling my brother to play the game correctly of not play at all? We were playing magic the gathering a game highly reliant on rules and keeping up with many individual things. He had played 1 card for a specific cost (that he didn’t pay correctly) and then followed to play another card that was maxing out his spending. After he passed his turn he realized that he actually didn’t have the funds to play both cards and continued to take off the card he paid for correctly and not the incorrectly played card saying that without the second card he could actually pay for the first one. I said that he should take back the card that he made the mistake on and not the rightfully played card, to which he responded saying that had he realized it on his turn he would have actually played the fist card only which does make sense, but it was the card he made the mistake on and was wrongly played. I know that it’s a little over the top to say if you don’t play right then you shouldn’t play at all but the point is there. So what do you think AITA or not?.