u/Riverendell

It's okay when I'm at home and eating my own things, but the moment I step outside it's huge ads for chicken wings, burgers, steaks, milk in literally everything. It's inescapable reminders of the unfathomable scales of animal cruelty everywhere I look. I almost burst into tears today after a day out because it was just too much!! And the horrible bizarre space of how normalised it all is compared to how overwhelmed I was feeling, and watching everyone just living and accepting it. I felt like I was going insane wanting to cry for trying to find something to eat.

They haven't done anything to really wrong me, but over time small things have sort of built up resentment for her as a person and everything she does annoys me now. She started out as a work friend but we've gotten quite close and now me and my partner see her, her partner, and children regularly.

Just small things like for example we were agreeing about how AI use is awful at work, come to find out she's one of the worst examples of AI over-usage I've ever seen. And I've noticed that she speaks in the same people-pleasing way to everyone, and I could be swapped out with anyone else and the conversation would be essentially identical.

And this isn't really her fault, but her partner has spoken to us independently about how he really struggles with her and her family, and they're all really passive aggressive to him in private. He's also talked to us about horribly unpleasant family holidays he's been on with them, ones where my friend told me everything was perfectly lovely without missing a beat. I just don't feel like I know her at all. She sometimes behaves passive aggressively with him in front of us and I've really started judging her as a person for it. You could argue that he shouldn't have involved us in this business, but we're probably his closest friends and he was clearly relieved to be speaking about it.

But she's always been extremely nice and polite to me and regularly invites us to hangout. I don't know what to do because by all accounts she's a nice and perfectly okay friend, but I've just grown to really dislike her. None of these feel like valid reasons to end a friendship over, and I feel like I'm even being ungrateful for wanting bin a stable friend.