u/Rockermarr

For those who found out later in life that the dad who raised you wasn’t your biological father, did you ever have a feeling or intuition that something was different before you knew the truth?

I’m not talking about cases where you were treated differently or there were obvious signs. I mean situations where your dad didn’t know either and loved and treated you like his own. Did you still ever have a gut feeling that something was off, or did the news come completely out of the blue?

So, my daughter asked if her college boyfriend can stay with us for a few days this summer to visit her, i honestly don’t like the idea. First we don’t have an extra bedroom or bed so he would have to sleep in the sofa in the living, and I really don’t like the idea of having a guest in the living room were I relax. I’d prefer he’d get a hotel but I realize he’s a college kid with no money. Am I wrong for not wanting him to stay with us? Is there a way to tell my daughter no without doing harsh?

Are there any benefits in waiting until a kid is 18 and out of high school to tell them the truth about paternity? I raised a child because the mother said that if I didn’t she wouldn’t have a dad, being that I already had a child with the mother I raised her as my own, along with her sister. I left the mom years ago. Main issue with this is that I don’t think the mother knows who or where the father is, I suspect it might’ve been multiple partners at the same time so I would not know how to even approach this should she ask those kind of questions.

I found out I was not my daughter’s biological father when she was a toddler, she’s 16 now, and though her mother and I are no longer together and haven’t been for 10 years, I continued raising her. however, it has always bothered me that she doesn’t know the truth, I feel she has a right to know her history. Whats everyone’s opinion ? Should she know the truth or should I hope she just never finds out at this point ?