u/Rough-Purple429

My sister was dating my boyfriend’s best friend for almost 2 years. About 3 weeks ago she found out he had been sleeping with a coworker and ended things with him. She was completely crushed.

Last night my boyfriend admitted that his best friend had told him about the affair months ago, so he knew his best friend was cheating on my sister the entire time.

He said it wasn't his place to get involved and that he didn't want to betray his friend.

What bothers me is he was around my sister constantly during those months. Dinners, birthdays, even sitting there while she talked about how serious she was about his best friend. He never told her or even mentioned it to me.

We've been together almost 3 years and were talking about moving in together soon. I have some money saved so there’s no pressure to rush that, but now I'm seriously questioning what this says about him as a person.

He keeps saying he wasn't the one who cheated and that I'm blaming him for something his friend did.

Would you end a relationship over this?

everything about it was fine on paper. 1998 build, decent bones, priced just under what we had saved up as our ceiling so numbers technically worked. agent hyped it up the whole drive over.

walk in, it smells like they went through an entire Febreze Gain bottle like 20 minutes before we showed up. whatever. we get to the hallway and i open the closet just to check depth and there is a full drawn out calendar on the back wall with a countdown. like hand written. 47 days and a bunch of crossed off boxes.

i dont know if it was a divorce, a job relo, financial stress or what but it hit different standing there. suddenly you realize theres a real person on the other side of this who needs out and it made me feel kind of weird about the whole "let's go in lowball and see what happens" strategy we had planned

we passed on it for unrelated reasons (layout just didnt work) but i keep thinking about that calendar. anybody else ever had a showing moment that made the whole thing feel weirdly human