u/RoutinePeanut3463

I (29M) made plans with five friends for dinner last Friday. We picked the restaurant earlier in the week, agreed on 7:00 pm, and everyone confirmed that morning. I got there a little early because parking around that area is usually terrible, so I grabbed the table and ordered a drink while I waited.

By 7:20 nobody had shown up. I texted the group asking if everyone was still coming. No response, spent another 30 min just scrolling on myprize and one person finally replied saying they were "running a little behind' that was it. No ETA, no explanation. I waited another 20 minutes, ordered an appetizer because I was starving, and still nothing. At that point I paid for my food, left the restaurant, and went home. What bothered me was sitting there for an hour and a half with almost no communication, wondering if I had somehow gotten the time wrong.

About 20 minutes after I got home, my phone started blowing up. Apparently everyone had arrived around 8:30 and was annoyed that I had left. They said I should have just waited because they were all together and assumed I knew they were coming. I told them I would've stayed if literally anyone had kept me updated, but sitting alone in a restaurant for 90 minutes with almost no communication felt disrespectful. Now a couple of them are saying I overreacted and made the night awkward for everyone. Am I the asshole for leaving instead of waiting even longer?

There are 14 of us on this floor. The water cooler gets refilled maybe twice a week and until recently it was just an unspoken thing: if you empty it you swap the jug. If you can’t lift it you ask someone for help. Normal office stuff. Three weeks ago, a guy on my team I’ll call him Brian started a spreadsheet.

It has tabs by week, columns for the date also name of the person who refilled it plus time of refill and a notes field. The notes field is where it gets weird. Last Tuesday it said: Refilled at 2:47pm Jug was at approximately 15% capacity. Refiller did not announce.

Yesterday’s said: Refilled at 11:03am. Refiller used incorrect lifting technique.

Brian is not a manager. Nobody asked him to do this but he just shares the spreadsheet in our team channel every Friday around 5pm with the message: Weekly hydration accountability. Nobody has acknowledged it no replies or emoji reactions, nothing at all. He keeps posting it anyway. This morning I walked into the kitchen and saw him look at the cooler, pull out his phone, and make a note. He saw me see him do it. Neither of us said anything i was playing on myprize. I have no idea what the endgame is. I don’t know if I’m in the spreadsheet as a top performer or as a problem since lately just can bother actually reading smth this dumb!

At this point, do I start refilling the cooler in increasingly suspicious ways?