u/RoyalFluid5565

Hello, as the title says - our medical bills are finally starting to arrive. Our daughter was born and passed May 21, we’ve been grieving and trying to find whatever good we can after losing her. Today we received our first bill. It seems like such a slap in the face - first to not have an unmedicated natural birth like we hoped for, to have an emergency c section, to lose our daughter, and now to be getting billed for it all. This first bill was upwards of $50,000. We do have insurance that covers a chunk, but even that is more than we expected to pay and I know that there will be more bills rolling in as none of this was for our little girls neonatal stay where they tried to keep her breathing.

Does anyone have experience negotiating these type of medical bills? What is the likelihood of them negotiating with me after the bills have already gone through insurance?

Thank you in advance. This already sucked, but now I feel like freshly healed wounds are being ripped back open.

We lost our little girl May 21, not even a month has passed yet. When I’m not thinking about her and grieving for her I am thinking about when we can start trying again. I had an emergency c section with her delivery.

My doctor says 6 months until we can try again, my research says 18 months is better. I can barely stand the thought of waiting 6 months. Does anyone have experience with this? Luckily it was easy for my husband and I to get pregnant with our Clella. I just want to be safe, but also I’m feeling very impatient. I couldn’t bear to lose another, or risk my uterus rupturing due to not being ready.

My baby girl was born the beginning of May. When 41 and 5 came around we induced. Started low and slow, everything was so joyful. Pregnancy was a dream. We eat well, I exercise, baby was healthy. After a long labor they lost my little girls heartbeat. The tried a vacuum and it was unsuccessful. I was rushed to OR for an emergency cesarean.

For 16 minutes they worked to revive her. The regained a faint heartbeat, but overall it wasn’t enough and she died in my arms.

She was our first. And I’m so grateful for the little time we had. Grief is funny and I miss my baby so incredibly much. I would do anything to have her here. I worry for what’s to come next. I’m a kindergarten teacher and I’m starting to wondering how I’m going to be around little ones all day everyday after summer break. How do I sing songs and play games with them without thinking about my little girl?

My baby girl was born the beginning of May. When 41 and 5 came around we induced. Started low and slow, everything was so joyful. Pregnancy was a dream. We eat well, I exercise, baby was healthy. After a long labor they lost my little girls heartbeat. The tried a vacuum and it was unsuccessful. I was rushed to OR for an emergency cesarean.

For 16 minutes they worked to revive her. The regained a faint heartbeat, but overall it wasn’t enough and she died in my arms.

She was our first. And I’m so grateful for the little time we had. Grief is funny and I miss my baby so incredibly much. I would do anything to have her here. I worry for what’s to come next. I’m a kindergarten teacher and I’m starting to wondering how I’m going to be around little ones all day everyday after summer break. How do I sing songs and play games with them without thinking about my little girl?