How much is your partner doing around the house after work / on their days off? Do they handle any overnight feeds (for young babies), any diaper changes, or any of household maintenance and chores?
Is being a SAHM really supposed to be mom takes on 100% of chores and childcare and father just works and then relaxes in at home?
Currently have a 5 month old and haven’t really been taking care of myself or dressed up since having the baby. It’s my (25F) birthday and we were having friends over at our house for a private dinner to celebrate. My husband is 24 for reference, we’ve been together since we were 18.
I decided to put on this new silk shirt I got that, admittedly was low cut but I felt cute in it and felt comfortable around the friends we were having over.
My husbands dad decided to stop by on his way home from work. When he came in, I was on the couch with my baby propped up beside me, bottle feeding him. Keep in mind, I am not breast feeding so no my breasts are not any larger right now.
My husbands dad leans down to look at the baby and then suddenly shouts “damn son, she could knock you out with those things in bed! Like cracking two coconuts together.” Fully in reference to my breasts.
It made me deeply uncomfortable and embarrassed, I was so stunned I couldn’t even process what he said to me, and our friends just stared at me blinking. He’s a redneck so hes said some pretty vulgar stuff but this just seems to take the cake as it was the first time it was directed to me.
When he stepped out I told my husband he needed to speak to him and that wasn’t okay, and I went to change clothes and decided to never ever wear that shirt again.
When he and my father in law spoke FIL just said “I shouldn’t have said that to her, I know how she can be.” Which just feels even more like I’m just being dramatic.
This genuinely ruined my entire night. Am I just too sensitive or was this an in appropriate thing to say?