i have auADHD and in a relationship with my girlfriend and i constantly overthink if she hates me despite the reassurance
i’ve been in a relationship with her for a couple of months now and i will say it’s a very healthy relationship - i’ve just had very bad ones in the past and i also have a lot of issues understanding social interactions and social cues etc so i tend to overthink quickly. i assume that this is a trauma response since my last relationships were very bad and i have grown up with peers around me that have treated me poorly.
i constantly crave reassurance and attention from her, and i am so afraid if im draining her. i was always shown that i was a nuisance, that i was constantly draining people and that im mean but she says otherwise. i just constantly think negatively because like i said ive grown up with peers around me who’ve always told me that im annoying. she always says she never hates me, she always says she will never abandon me and i wish i could believe that but my brain keeps telling me that it’s not true. i really need help on how to stop overthinking because i feel like it’s ruining our relationship