u/Sad-Substance-9750

Been hanging out with this girl for like a month. She was so kind and doing all sorts of nice things for me. I said I was looking for something casual and she said ok me too but can we be exclusive. And I said of course. And then I had sex with someone else and was too stupid to tell her and tried to just slink away and of course she found out about it and I’m just like what a asinine, immature move by me.

Every time I date someone it ends up this way

The fantasies in my head have been determining my mood lately, for better or worse.

During good moments I think “she’s struggling. She misses me too. She’s living her boring life and dealing with guilt. She’ll take time to truly heal.” The shared struggle puts me in a better place and raises my confidence

During bad moments it’s “she’s already with someone else. She doesn’t ever think about me. She’s already moved on.”

Who knows what reality is, but it is so strange how much power these stupid thoughts hold over me