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I’m 18 ftm I have two step siblings and a brother we will call Ken. I have a step mother we will call Sydney. I’m not sure how to start this to be honest nor am I the best and writing things out properly so sorry in advance.

My father when I was 16 got me a car he bought it originally for racing but decided it was nice enough for me to drive as my first car ( it was nice as a starter car and I loved it ) but it had issues it had sat for 8 or 9 years so i had to buy a new alternator a new battery the struts needed to be replaced it made this horrible thunking noise whenever I turned it left I took it to the mechanics and it had a 2000 dollar quote on how much it would cost to fix all its issues. It shifted really roughly so I think the tranny was going out and it had a really bad gas leak ( my dad fixed it later but idk)

My grandfather had given my brother his old car and a parts car. I was going to inherit a different old truck but he said he’d help me pick something nice out for the exact price he spent on Ken’s car( Ken had two vehicles one from my dad one from my grandfather and the parts car, my grandfather had given him as well) he thought the car my dad got me was unsafe that’s why he wanted to do this for me. (I felt really bad abt it I still do )

so when my grandmother and grandfather saw this old ford on facebook my uncle was selling (it was in great shape no rust he replaced the struts breaks and a bunch of other stuff with only 109k miles on it )my grandfather immediately had my uncle bring it over and let me drive it for a week. (The ford is a little older than my old car but it’s in far better shape.)

I told my dad and Sydney i really like this truck and want it ( I had my dad come and look at it to because I wanted his opinion) they were both upset and kept saying my old car was fine( it wasn’t I had been having issues getting it to start before work at that point ) I told my dad I was really sorry but I was gonna get the truck( grandfather bought it for me) my dad said ok but Sydney was really upset (I don’t remember very well. It was a long time ago.) she said something like it’s unfair towards ken I get this new vehicle. ( Ken literally already has two vehicles but ok) yeah she kept going on and on about how it was unfair towards Ken that I got this vehicle.

Now I’ve had this truck for a bit i’ve gotta take it in for like a minor issues and maintenance. Nothing like my old car and it’s been far cheaper on gas cause there’s no gas leak and I love this vehicle. I got CarPlay in it now and AC!! this car has cost me a lot less than my old one had at a year of having it. But Sydney and my father both make comments when I take this vehicle in for either routine maintenance or it’s had a little issues . Like Sydney belittles me for getting this car even though my brother has had far more issues with both his vehicles because he’s so rough on stuff where I’m just caring for my vehicle and doing routine maintenance. While my old car I never took in because it would’ve been two grand to get all the issues fixed and my mechanic said it was just a waste to do all that and it wasn’t worth it.

Then after all this I tried selling my old car for 500 bucks to at least get some of my money back I spent a lot on repairs. But no, my Dad did not let me. He said he would pay me 500 though because I spent so much fixing it. And so he can race it now.

But a few months later he lets Ken sell his old car for 500 bucks! And my dad still hasn’t given me the 500 for my old car like he said he would! (Which is ok ig idk)

Then he buys Ken a new car right after all this ( this cars far newer then my old car and in better shape it’s 2010 my old one was early 2000s)

But after all this complaining abt me getting a new vehicle they get Ken this nice new car ?! Like yeah me getting this ford that’s safer for me to drive is unfair but you buying him a new car isn’t unfair? After Sydney kept bitching at me for weeks abt how” unfair”it was?!

But this isn’t even the first time they’ve done unfair stuff like this! Like for me and Ken’s 18th birthday’s (they are really close together) Sydney had to drive all the way to my grandparents house while me Ken and my mom were there on my mom’s day. To drop his birthday present off.( we had split custody at the time)my mom also told Ken she didn’t want Sydney to stop at my grandparents house and that he could get his gift from Sydney tomorrow since that day we would be at my dads. But nope she came anyway.

Then Ken had his birthday party the next day at my dads. while I was at work ( which yeah it’s his birthday idc ) but I had seen his decorations and stuff Sydney even said it was for his birthday!

This all goes along with the story I’m not just going off on random birthday stuff.

So for my birthday I had my bff over because I had the vibe there would be no party for me there would be no presents for me and I didn’t want to deal with that alone.

So I got home with my bff.( let’s call them Noah) so me and Noah walked into my house hoping for at least a happy birthday and maybe a present ( nothing big money maybe red-bull idc anything) but nope Sydney never even said happy birthday to me not once when we entered the house. ( she made ken his fav food for his birthday!did she do that for me? No) (Sydney apparently didn’t even know Noah was coming over my dad must not have told her ig🤷‍♂️

But no I got not party no presents not even a happy birthday ( I did get a happy birthday from my dad but no party or presents but at the very least he had said happy birthday ) while Ken he got all of it a part present! But Sydney and dad left to go to Sydney’s sisters they didn’t even stay they were gone all night.

Noah said they felt terrible for me so they said we should make a cake but we had none of the stuff at my house so we got Taco Bell together and made cake at their place celebrating with their parents( they sang me happy birthday and gave me hugs) so my birthday was pretty fun with them!

I just hate how my dad and Sydney treat me. And I feel like I’m a third wheel in my own house. They get everyone food but forget to get me food all the time. ( Ik I’m 18 yes I can feed myself obviously but they always buy Ken dinner when they buy food for the family )so I don’t understand why I’m always forgotten or treated differently.

There is even more stuff that’s happened this is me trying to be semi short with it all.

Would I be the A hole for wanting to move out?

I’m 18 ftm I have two step siblings and a brother we will call Ken. I have a step mother we will call Sydney. I’m not sure how to start this to be honest nor am I the best and writing things out properly so sorry in advance.

My father when I was 16 got me a car he bought it originally for racing but decided it was nice enough for me to drive as my first car ( it was nice as a starter car and I loved it ) but it had issues it had sat for 8 or 9 years so i had to buy a new alternator a new battery the struts needed to be replaced it made this horrible thunking noise whenever I turned it left I took it to the mechanics and it had a 2000 dollar quote on how much it would cost to fix all its issues. It shifted really roughly so I think the tranny was going out and it had a really bad gas leak ( my dad fixed it later but idk)

My grandfather had given my brother his old car and a parts car. I was going to inherit a different old truck but he said he’d help me pick something nice out for the exact price he spent on Ken’s car( Ken had two vehicles one from my dad one from my grandfather and the parts car, my grandfather had given him as well) he thought the car my dad got me was unsafe that’s why he wanted to do this for me. (I felt really bad abt it I still do )

so when my grandmother and grandfather saw this old ford on facebook my uncle was selling (it was in great shape no rust he replaced the struts breaks and a bunch of other stuff with only 109k miles on it )my grandfather immediately had my uncle bring it over and let me drive it for a week. (The ford is a little older than my old car but it’s in far better shape.)

I told my dad and Sydney i really like this truck and want it ( I had my dad come and look at it to because I wanted his opinion) they were both upset and kept saying my old car was fine( it wasn’t I had been having issues getting it to start before work at that point ) I told my dad I was really sorry but I was gonna get the truck( grandfather bought it for me) my dad said ok but Sydney was really upset (I don’t remember very well. It was a long time ago.) she said something like it’s unfair towards ken I get this new vehicle. ( Ken literally already has two vehicles but ok) yeah she kept going on and on about how it was unfair towards Ken that I got this vehicle.

Now I’ve had this truck for a bit i’ve gotta take it in for like a minor issues and maintenance. Nothing like my old car and it’s been far cheaper on gas cause there’s no gas leak and I love this vehicle. I got CarPlay in it now and AC!! this car has cost me a lot less than my old one had at a year of having it. But Sydney and my father both make comments when I take this vehicle in for either routine maintenance or it’s had a little issues . Like Sydney belittles me for getting this car even though my brother has had far more issues with both his vehicles because he’s so rough on stuff where I’m just caring for my vehicle and doing routine maintenance. While my old car I never took in because it would’ve been two grand to get all the issues fixed and my mechanic said it was just a waste to do all that and it wasn’t worth it.

Then after all this I tried selling my old car for 500 bucks to at least get some of my money back I spent a lot on repairs. But no, my Dad did not let me. He said he would pay me 500 though because I spent so much fixing it. And so he can race it now.

But a few months later he lets Ken sell his old car for 500 bucks! And my dad still hasn’t given me the 500 for my old car like he said he would! (Which is ok ig idk)

Then he buys Ken a new car right after all this ( this cars far newer then my old car and in better shape it’s 2010 my old one was early 2000s)

But after all this complaining abt me getting a new vehicle they get Ken this nice new car ?! Like yeah me getting this ford that’s safer for me to drive is unfair but you buying him a new car isn’t unfair? After Sydney kept bitching at me for weeks abt how” unfair”it was?!

But this isn’t even the first time they’ve done unfair stuff like this! Like for me and Ken’s 18th birthday’s (they are really close together) Sydney had to drive all the way to my grandparents house while me Ken and my mom were there on my mom’s day. To drop his birthday present off.( we had split custody at the time)my mom also told Ken she didn’t want Sydney to stop at my grandparents house and that he could get his gift from Sydney tomorrow since that day we would be at my dads. But nope she came anyway.

Then Ken had his birthday party the next day at my dads. while I was at work ( which yeah it’s his birthday idc ) but I had seen his decorations and stuff Sydney even said it was for his birthday!

This all goes along with the story I’m not just going off on random birthday stuff.

So for my birthday I had my bff over because I had the vibe there would be no party for me there would be no presents for me and I didn’t want to deal with that alone.

So I got home with my bff.( let’s call them Noah) so me and Noah walked into my house hoping for at least a happy birthday and maybe a present ( nothing big money maybe red-bull idc anything) but nope Sydney never even said happy birthday to me not once when we entered the house. ( she made ken his fav food for his birthday!did she do that for me? No) (Sydney apparently didn’t even know Noah was coming over my dad must not have told her ig🤷‍♂️

But no I got not party no presents not even a happy birthday ( I did get a happy birthday from my dad but no party or presents but at the very least he had said happy birthday ) while Ken he got all of it a part present! But Sydney and dad left to go to Sydney’s sisters they didn’t even stay they were gone all night.

Noah said they felt terrible for me so they said we should make a cake but we had none of the stuff at my house so we got Taco Bell together and made cake at their place celebrating with their parents( they sang me happy birthday and gave me hugs) so my birthday was pretty fun with them!

I just hate how my dad and Sydney treat me. And I feel like I’m a third wheel in my own house. They get everyone food but forget to get me food all the time. ( Ik I’m 18 yes I can feed myself obviously but they always buy Ken dinner when they buy food for the family )so I don’t understand why I’m always forgotten or treated differently.

There is even more stuff that’s happened this is me trying to be semi short with it all.

Would I be the A hole for wanting to move out?