u/Saint0808

Is it raining right now ? How's the weather currently, if someone is there

Is it a good decision to come to Varkala during May end?

Good time to visit?

Planning to visit solo by train from Blr.

Pls advice .looking to stay for 4 days

Can someone help with the proceedure to take parents to show office

Does GS provide these support ? It's nota very easy process , if someone has opted , can they pls guide

Can anyone pls help with the books for 2026?

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My father was the eldest son, so he had to take on responsibility early in life. Over time, I feel like that made him… scared. Not weak in a bad way, but more like someone who avoids conflict, lets people walk over him, and always worries things might go wrong. I’ve seen people take advantage of that, and it always made me feel bad for him.

The problem is — I’m starting to see the same traits in myself.

I hesitate, overthink, avoid confrontation, and sometimes feel like I’m just reacting instead of standing my ground. I also catch myself judging him for it internally, which makes me feel worse because I’m literally becoming the same person.

It’s like I’m stuck between understanding why he became this way… and being afraid that I’ll never break out of it.

Has anyone else gone through something like this? How do you stop repeating patterns you grew up with?

TL;DR: My father became overly passive and fearful due to responsibilities, and I’m starting to see the same traits in myself. I don’t like it and don’t know how to break the cycle.