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Hello everyone first time dad and have no idea what am doing to top off its going to be a girl nothing wrong. Just need books on how to change feed nap and raise a little one

Tldr question: Has anyone been in similar situations and how did it effect you as a man as you got older or in short terms?

Me and my boyfriend accidentally got pregnant very soon into our relationship, birth control failure, but decided to keep the baby regardless. Mostly probably from pressure from those around us and fear of being judged if we didn't. But she's here now and he keeps saying he wasn't ready and I knew that. I did. But I also wasn't ready. We're also young, he was 17 I was 18, now 19 and 20. He's not taking it well at all, been having emotional outbursts, majority of the time refuses to help with our daughter. It took him 5 months to hold her but there's been improvements. I could go on about the situation but that's not important what's important is if there's hope he'll come around or if I doomed him and I both because he wasn't ready more so than I wasn't ready.

Posted this in another sub but was removed and recommend to post here

First time dad here to a beautiful baby girl (2 weeks old). But my wife is having issues supplying enough milk and is super stressed and upset. I try my hardest to ensure that she’s doing enough and possibly using formula is fine but she seems so upset about it. Is there any tips yall know of that can help. It’s hard seeing my wife so upset about it. Any advice would be great

We are in a financial position i wish I had never put us in. Our mortgage is higher than I would like and im going to have to work extra time to get us ahead the next 4 years. My daughter's 11 months old and I love her more than anything it kills my everyday that I have to be away so much but it also would kill me to not be able to provide a good life for her. Any other dads go through this and what do you do to get through?

Ever since I’ve become a father, I’m more sensitive now. Before becoming a father, I was never emotional or even cry but now, being with them I cry of happiness but also become sad watching them get older.

My wife has been away this week for the first time for work. At the same time, my LO is in their first fortnight at nursery.

I have been effectively solo parenting this week and doing everything with LO, including nursery run. Since my wife has come back, my LO has been okay with her, but refusing to settle with her for bedtime. LO has not been this way previously and has always preferred my wife. They now prefer me and fuss until I come into the room. Has anyone had this before, and is there a way to fix it as my wife has become a bit disheartened by the rejection.

As pleased as I am that LO is keen on me, it's not having a great impact on my wife.

I’m a father in my mid-30s with a young son, and I’ve been thinking more about what matters at each stage of a man’s life.
For men who have already lived through their 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s and beyond: What should younger men be thinking about or planning for before reaching your decade?
Career, money, marriage, fatherhood, friendships, health, aging parents, regrets, priorities—anything you now realize mattered.
I want to use the perspective both for myself and to share with my son as he gets older.
If comfortable, include your age and where you’re from or cultural background. What should a man know before entering your decade?