u/i_am_the_koi

Today's shower thought after a comment was made to me by a friend recently.

It's really hard to make and keep friends, especially as a dad. Connecting with someone new that you actually make the effort to keep connecting with is like, extremely hard.

I recently saw a life long friend for the first time in a year. It might as well have been the first time in 24 hours because it was like no time had passed. She commented on it as well and this morning it got me thinking.

Thinking about my current list of "friends". I honestly would say "colleagues" would be a better description, even for those I'm closer too. I thought about those over the years I've connected to, and then split apart from, and the connection for almost all of them was work related. I thought about those currently in my life, and realized that if it wasn't for work, I probably wouldn't hear from any of them unless I reached out.

I call them one way street relationships. I've had this thought before and for the last 6 months have made an actual effort to... Make a new friend. They aren't just going to knock on your door, so I've been taking the kids out more and actually talking to other parents to see if there's a connection. I've been going to local shows and events with the same goal. 0 success, like at all. Not even a hint of recognition from people I've talked to before.

Maybe it's me... I'm a dick, I know it.. It's not what I say but how I say it.

But I'm struggling with the bed I've made for myself. Especially the fear of passing it on to my kids to where they grow up without friends. I'm struggling with the feeling that I have to force myself into the lives of those I call my friends. That if I don't I would just fade into the darkness with nobody noticing, and if it wasn't for social media that fade would be a blip.

So daddit, how do you make new friends as a dad? How do you keep those friendships alive? Do you pursue one way relationships just to have people in your life? Is the struggle real?

Today's shower thought after a comment was made to me by a friend recently.

It's really hard to make and keep friends, especially as a dad. Connecting with someone new that you actually make the effort to keep connecting with is like, extremely hard.

I recently saw a life long friend for the first time in a year. It might as well have been the first time in 24 hours because it was like no time had passed. She commented on it as well and this morning it got me thinking.

Thinking about my current list of "friends". I honestly would say "colleagues" would be a better description, even for those I'm closer too. I thought about those over the years I've connected to, and then split apart from, and the connection for almost all of them was work related. I thought about those currently in my life, and realized that if it wasn't for work, I probably wouldn't hear from any of them unless I reached out.

I call them one way street relationships. I've had this thought before and for the last 6 months have made an actual effort to... Make a new friend. They aren't just going to knock on your door, so I've been taking the kids out more and actually talking to other parents to see if there's a connection. I've been going to local shows and events with the same goal. 0 success, like at all. Not even a hint of recognition from people I've talked to before.

Maybe it's me... I'm a dick, I know it.. It's not what I say but how I say it.

But I'm struggling with the bed I've made for myself. Especially the fear of passing it on to my kids to where they grow up without friends. I'm struggling with the feeling that I have to force myself into the lives of those I call my friends. That if I don't I would just fade into the darkness with nobody noticing, and if it wasn't for social media that fade would be a blip.

So daddit, how do you make new friends as a dad? How do you keep those friendships alive? Do you pursue one way relationships just to have people in your life? Is the struggle real?

Looking for a techno song I've heard on the bbc but can't find it on the show listings afterwards.

Has a female talking about her need for some face melting techno and dubstep. "Some real face melting wub wub stuff."

Well daddit, I think I may have broken my twinz of bottles.

Not us, not we... Me!

I mean, it's been two months that I've limited and intentionally replaced bottles with other cups but for the last two weeks I've been basically the main provider as my wife is in the middle of her busiest season, so their bottle use has been down to almost 0. Unless she gives them some overnight, they don't get them during the day or for bedtime anymore. Grandma hasn't been by for over a week, (she's mad at me for being gone on mother's day), so no pity bottles from her.

I haven't washed a bottle in 4 days.

Compared to 8-12 bottles, each, a day. That's 5 pieces each bottles, 3 different brushes each bottle. Sterilizer every other week for an hour.

Zero? Like... This isn't even the joke of "what do parents with only one child do all day?"

This is like, a serious achievement daddit.

Do I get half the sink back from a dedicated bottle sink?

Does that mean I get counter space back because the drying rack can go back in the sink?

3 bins of bottles of parts... Gone?

What do I even do with this new found freedom of space?

I'll go first:

Watched Frozen: On Broadway with my 2 year old twinz while they ate dinner. One of their favorites and the hygge song always makes me laugh.

Suggested next, Lion King at Hollywood Bowl. Why not, don't think I've ever actually watched it and if there's a wildebeest stampede I can probably turn it off before they notice.

Opening song, circle of life, Jennifer Hudson, epic start.

Then the pan flute solo.

Fucking, bawling daddit.

Two paper towels and a rag, had to stand in the dark spot from the cameras so the wife didn't see if she was watching at that moment

My daughter noticed and snuck up on me to give me a hug, said bye and waved (her new favorite thing) and ran off to put her bear to bed...

BAWLING, like, couldn't tell you the last time that many tears came from my face in a 2 minute span.

So, what made you cry today?

As a dad, not because of an actual reason to cry, like cutting off your arm, but only if above the elbow otherwise it's just a scratch.

Now to belt Hakuna Matata while I wait, like when I was a young warthog!