u/Salt-Bed-774

I(F18) just had an abrupt end to a talking stage with a guy(M21) that I’ve really grown to like due one statement. We’ve already had plenty of convos beforehand since I was more on the gen-z side of things while he was more old timey and never really was the type to be on the phone much. With that being said a lot of the jokes I’d make or the sarcasm I’d throw out either over text or on the phone would either go over his head or head he’d take it the wrong way.

Due to the convos and reassurance I ended up getting more comfortable until one statement ended it all. On the day we were supposed to go out on a date, he stood me up and ignored my texts for hours because before we were suspended to go out, my cycle came on and I stupidly said “I wish I was a man they have it so easily.” In hopes that he’d joke back but he took it really seriously. It wasn’t my intent to sound tone deaf or self absorbed but now I’m realizing it did. After I got back home I was pretty angry that I got stood up without any explanation at all and tried to get some closure. After hours of not getting a response he said something and everything went downhill after that. Emotions were high on both ends and we exchanged some harsh words to each other which I regret now. It’s been two days later and I’ve unblocked him but am second guessing if I should even try speaking to him again.

It’s been on my mind a lot lately and I really want to apologize since that was not my character at all and I wouldn’t want anyone to see me as angry no matter who or what happened. I’ve been hesitant to send it because he’s probably already moved on, found someone new, or wouldn’t want to hear from me again. Would you be angry if someone tried to apologize this late?

And as much as I wanted us to continue talking, my purpose for apologizing isn’t to try to squeeze my way back in. I was considering blocking him again after I apologize so that he doesn’t get mad or think I’m trying to desperately get in. What should I do or not do? And how would you take this?

I(F18) just recently got into an argument, stood up on a date, and ended things with this guy(M21) I was really starting to like after 3 weeks of texting and calling each other. I’m still trying to get used to and learn from my mistakes when it comes to dating since I never have but I always just mess things up for some reason. Irl I’m a really sarcastic person who jokes a lot but sometimes I forget not everyone enjoys that and if I’m only dating from apps then I should probably tone it down way more. With that being said he would get a little aggravated at some of the small things that I would say/do and I would constantly have to reassure him of it just being playful. For example wanting to call instead of text, playfully laughing about him being confused and not knowing what 4c hair is even though I thought it was cute, or small stuff like that and I think after a while of calling I felt as if he was able to catch on to my personality. I constantly told him beforehand about how I am but he would always say he’s getting to know me or things along those lines.

The statement that ended it all was due to me stupidly typing out “I wish I was a man, yall have it so easy.” It was meant in a jokingly way after explaining how I was on my period but he didn’t take it like that at all. He responded with “what’s sm harder about being a woman though” and it went downhill from there.” I don’t know why I was stupid enough to say that and wish I could take it back but after that he switched completely, stood me up 3 hours later on the first date, ignored me for hours, and it led to a huge argument afterwards. I’ve thought about contacting him again and trying to apologize more but the argument was really bad enough to where I don’t think that’d cut it. My friends say I dodged a bullet and I thought that at first too but after realizing how I may not have explained my side well enough to him, I wish I could just go back and take back what I said. I just don’t know why every time I try, I always ruin whatever I touch.

I guess after a while I grew tired of him taking what I say the wrong way and always needing a huge explanation and everything just built up in that argument. I’ve heard that it’s good to test the waters and see if the guy gets easily agitated but I think my words may come off too strong in a way that makes me seem tone deaf. I struggle with not saying the first thing on my mind but forget that it can come off a certain way to others. It’s hard for me to find a guy I’d fall in love with but once I do it’s like everything goes downhill. In the argument we both said some hurtful things but I’m still open to trying to text him again or have hope that he’d text (maybe not). How do I get over this or should I try apologizing again?

I(F18) made a post on here a couple of months ago and almost everyone recommended moving out and going far away but I’m still a broke college student right now. I really hate living in my dad’s house since everything me and my little sister does manages to piss him off. My sister(F13) and I stay in our rooms all day everyday, never talk, and goes mute whenever we’re around him but yet he still finds something. At certain points it aggravates me and I write him a note about all the abuse being done but it just backfires on me. He refuses to take us to the dentist, doctor, or feed us anything other than fast food even though I called him out on it and even reported him to cps. He would sexually assault me as a child, pees on the toilet as a grown man, never cleans up, and tries to lie to every family member around him as if he’s the good person. Now that I’m 18, anytime I “talk back” he threatens to kick me out.

I don’t know how much longer I can put up with it and am really considering dropping out of college due to not knowing if I’ll be able to put up with him any longer, all my time going to college instead of a job, and not being able to work full time. I don’t dorm so that I’m not wasting any other money and can save when I get a job. I’m weary of moving out because I don’t want my sister to have to deal with him alone.