u/Same_Preparation1947

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about 10 months, I struggle pretty badly with social anxiety, especially in restaurants or ordering food. I don’t really have friends and mostly stay home, so social situations are genuinely hard for me.
Today we went to a café/dinner place and I got anxious when it was time to order. He suddenly told me to order first, which put me on the spot. I panicked, walked up to the counter quickly, and started ordering without saying “hi” first to the barista. He immediately corrected me and said I should say hello first and that it was rude to just walk up and order.
I already felt embarrassed, so I just laughed nervously and kept ordering. But afterward when we sat down, he kept calling me rude and criticizing me even though he knows I have anxiety and struggle socially. I was trying not to cry, so eventually I snapped and told him to shut up because I felt attacked and humiliated.
The thing is, this doesn’t feel like a one-time issue. He often points out things I do wrong, but he almost never says nice things to me or compliments me.

I know I could improve socially and maybe I should’ve said hi first, but I can’t tell if I’m overreacting for feeling really hurt by how he handled it and thinking about ending the relationship.