The NEW dating etiquette (a guide for gents)
The NEW dating etiquette
These rules are to be applied in the beginning until you establish a respectful, mutually beneficial dating dynamic.
Some background context for these rules:
There's no gender pay gap -- argue with your momma OR hire a lawyer and sue the companies paying women less for the same work because it's illegal.
Women and men are COMPETITORS in job markets, housing markets, etc. Women also still benefit from norms and laws that favor women over men (the draft, custody law, funding for health research, etc).
For these reasons, if a woman isn't contributing value to the shared dating experience from the beginning, she is a selfish leech that should be cut off.
Remember, what's universally fair and morally right is reciprocity. If the relationship doesn't feel reciprocal, then cut it off.
The rules:
No "dinner dates" for the first date unless she's co-paying or driving 1 hr + out of her way to your neck of the woods.
If you go to multiple venues in the same night, or have multiple rounds of drinks, and she doesn't take turns paying, then drop her. She's not "partner material".
If she routinely, passively sits by when the bill arrives (meaning, she leaves the burden of figuring out payment on you), then drop her. She's not "partner material".
If she suggests you pick her up or send a car for her, then drop her. Are you her chauffeur?
If she insists that you get out of the car to open her car door, then drop her. Are you her chauffeur?
If you've covered the last date, and she doesn't cover the next one, then drop her. She's not "partner material".
If she declares celibacy before the date then do not take her on one.
If you propose a specific date idea, and she responds with a non-committal placeholder like "I'll let you know closer to the day," then do not leave the slot open. Take the option completely off the table immediately.
If she's playing games on a dating app (ex. Providing 1 - 3 word responses; not showing curiosity about you; not contributing to the conversation), then do not invite her out.
It does NOT matter who invited who out. The golden rule is do onto others as you would want done onto you (i.e. reciprocity) so if she's not reciprocating, then cut her off.