u/Sapatos38

My ex and I have been divorced for 2.5 years. We were amicable until his girlfriend became pregnant and started acting like mom to my kids, 7 and 9. (See old posts.)

When we were still married, we discussed wanting to move school systems for the kids by middle school.

In June I bought a house in one of the best school systems in the state. It’s 1 hour from my ex, almost exactly. I got served on Friday. He filed for primary custody because he thinks my move and commute isn’t in the kids best interests.

And I am so beyond devastated, disgusted, and horrified… it’s all I’ve been able to think about for days. Every time I think of it I can’t stop crying.

Not sure what I’m looking for here. I could just use some support.

My ex and I have been divorced for 2.5 years. We were amicable until his girlfriend became pregnant and started acting like mom to my kids, 7 and 9.

When we were still married, we discussed wanting to move school systems for the kids by middle school.

In June I bought a house in one of the best school systems in the state. It’s 1 hour from my ex, almost exactly. I got served on Friday. He filed for primary custody because he thinks my move and commute isn’t in the kids best interests.

And I am so beyond devastated, disgusted, and horrified… it’s all I’ve been able to think about for days. Every time I think of it I can’t stop crying.

Not sure what I’m looking for here. I could just use some support.

My ex and I have 50/50 custody. I went to DD’s softball game last night. ExH is the coach and was on the field. He came with his tribe. Pregnant Girlfriend, mom, stepdad, and sister. I’m sitting with my son on the bleachers and former FIL came over and starts saying my son didn’t eat his dinner in front of a bleacher full of people, embarrassing him. My son hides in my chest. I get him to talk and he said he ate some pork but didn’t want the rest of his dinner and he was hungry.

So I said let’s go to the snack shack and get you a snack. My ex’s mom, sister, and girlfriend are running the snack shack. So we get to the snack shack and I ask my son what he wants to eat. And pregnant GF is like “no, he can’t have a snack. He didn’t finish his dinner.”

So I said, “I heard he ate some pork. And he’s hungry. He can have a snack.” And she said “no. The rule is if you don’t finish your dinner, you can’t have a snack.”

So then my son clams up and refuses to get a snack. And I’m seething pissed. At the end of the game, I tell my ex we need to have a conversation with his GF.

I said “let’s get something straight. I am son’s mother. And if I am with my son and he is hungry, I will feed him. You don’t tell me I can’t feed my son.”

And she said “that’s the rule in our house.”

We went back and forth. She said I was being inappropriate and making a scene and it’s not a good look.

And I said you are the last person in the world who is in a position to talk about how anything looks. And I told her to get a personality while she’s at it.

And I said if she was concerned with how things look she wouldn’t have told me I couldn’t feed my son in front of a group of people.

She then told me to get my shit out of their house. (My ex kept the house and agreed to store some ceramics for me. The house is still legally mine.)

And I said let’s be clear. It’s not even sort of your house. In fact it’s still my house. My name is on the deed. If my ex drops dead, it’s my house and she’s on her ass.

I’m not angry about whose house it is. I’m angry about the audacity of this woman telling a mother in front of her son and his family that she cannot get him a snack.

And while it turned into what their rule was, the point is she has no right to tell me whether or not to feed my son while I am standing with him, cash in hand, to get a snack.

I am tired of going to my children’s events and being surrounded by a tribe of my ex’s people and made to feel bullied and marginalized. He is MY son. She’s having a kid and can parent that kid. But she’s not my son’s mother.

Am I wrong? How would you react.